Hello dear followers! My life has been extremely busy lately as I have just started back to work, so I’m sorry once again for not keeping up on the posts, but it all ends today. (: I have received over 40 messages over the past two weeks or so, and I am so grateful! Thank you so much for all the questions guys, it really means a lot to me and feel free to keep em’ coming and I promise I’ll answer each and every one of them! (: Buttt…because of this, I’m going to do things a little differently, atleast this week (possibly in weeks to come as well?). I’m going to answer 15 questions tonight and then starting tomorrow, along with my other posts for the week (themed! check it out tomorrow to find out what it is!!) I’m going to be answering a few questions everyday until I get them all answered. But any questions I receive starting tomorrow will have to wait till next week. Okay, now that we’ve got the logistics out of the way, let the question answering begin! (:

Hello my loveliest Taylor! My boyfriend and I aren’t planning to have sex any time soon, but it’s a sure-fire thing that we will one day, and it’s going to be our first time for both of us. I am terribly excited about this happening, as is he, but he actually is very worried about getting off within a minute or two of being in me, which of course would suck a lot for both of us. Is that something that actually happens on a guy’s first time commonly? And is there any way we can prevent that from happening? I would hate for my/our first time to bomb like that ):

Well hello my loveliest follower. (: To answer your first question, yes it is an extremely common thing for a guy to not last more than a few minutes the first time. This is because of all the excitement associated with sex, literally! Usually when a guy knows he is going to have sex for the first time, his body will send a heightened arousal signal to his brain that says, “OMG! I’m going in!” this leads to over-excitement in the penis and can cause him to ejaculate early on. This is perfectly normal though and not to be confused with premature ejaculation! If you want to make your boyfriend last longer you can do a couple things. Firstly, I would suggest saving your first time for round 2. What I mean is, give your boyfriend a handjob or a blowjob (or both!) for round 1 until he ejaculates. Then after giving him a rest period-try about a half hour-you can try having sex for the first time as round 2 of your pleasure fest. (; Usually after a guy ejaculates once, the next time he will last longer (this is of course if he’s ready and has had a long enough rest period so that he can become erect again). You can also invest in buying your guy a cock ring-it sits on the base of the shaft and minorly cuts of circulation so your guy can stay erect longer. You can purchase one of these at your local sex shop, but if you’re under 18 this may be an issue, so I would definitely try the first suggestion first if I were you. (: Hope this helps and don’t worry, as long as your first time is with someone you truly care about, I’m sure it won’t bomb like you think, but if it doesn’t last as long as you’d like I guess you’ll just have to try again! (;

Hello Ms.TaylorAnn,
Alright, I’m Going To Get Straight To The Point.
I’m A Screamer, & I Need A Way To Quiet Down.
But I Have No Idea How To MAKE Myself Shush Up & Every Time I Try To Force Silence, It Dosn’t Work.
It Sounds Stupid, But I Hate Being So Loud. Its Rather Embaressing,
Hahah, Any Advice?

BTW, Your Blog, Def Kick-Ass My Friend.
-BF

Hello BF. (: Firstly, let me tell you that you should not be ashamed that you’re a screamer! Guys loveee a woman who can express her true feelings-if you catch my drift. (; However, if there are other people (particularly parents) in the area in which you are engaging in sexual activities, it can be an issue. So I definitely understand your concern! This is really just a mind control thing-learning to let go, but still have control. Making noises (moaning, “mmmm”, “grrrr”, gasping, etc.) is not the same thing as yelling “OMG YES!” at the top of your lungs, so let’s try and focus on that. (: When you think you are close to climax try biting down (lightly!) on your tongue or your bottom lip; this will not allow the mouth to open wide enough for screaming to escape, but will still allow you to make sexy noises for your man. (; I would also suggest trying to focus that wonderful energy on another task. For example, when you’re close to climax try (lightly of course!) biting on your guy’s shoulder or something similar. He’ll think it’s hot, plus it allows your mouth to focus on another task other than screaming. You can also try, if you haven’t already, putting a pillow over your mouth. Not hard enough so that you’re suffocating yourself, but enough so that it muffles the noises coming from your mouth. Hopefully some of these help you out and good luck with that loud mouth! (;

I’ve had sex a few times but i can never get off i dont know if its the guys I’ve been with or its something I’m doing.

Well to answer your question, it could be both. hah. To be perfectly honest. Perhaps the reason you can’t get off is because the guys you’ve been with haven’t been hitting the right angles. Next time you have sex try a position that will angle your guy’s penis toward your G-spot. This can be accomplished with a doggie-style position, a girl-on-top position or any position in which the penis is at a 90 degree angle to your G-spot-such as the “leg-lock” where you sit on a counter top and wrap your legs around your guy’s waist. With the doggie-style positions and “leg-lock” positions it also will give your guy free rain with his hands so that he can use them to stimulate your clitoris (which is an easier and more likely way of orgasming!). If you want to take control of your orgasm, use a girl-on-top position in which you can control the timing and speed of his thrusts and you can move your hips in a direction that feels the best for you. Hope this helps, good luck!

Hi! Although it’s obvious you get a lot of praise, I’d like to reiterate the fact that I think you’re blog is great, especially for younger people who may be too afraid to ask the people they know about the “birds and the bees”, hah. Anyway, my problem is that I’ve been with my fiance for 3 years now, but I find I’m not as excited at the prospect of sex as much as I once was. I can definitely say it’s nothing to do with me not finding him sexually attractive, or any problems in the relationship, things are fine in that sense :). I HAVE been very stressed lately, due to study, work etc but even during holidays and such, I still find myself just not wanting sex. I somewhat don’t see the point, which sucks because I really want to make my partner happy. How can I rediscover my passion for sex?

Hi! Well thank you very much, praise from any of my followers is always appreciated. (: Your lack of a sex drive is most likely due to your stress levels, and I know you said you don’t want sex during holidays either, but this is perhaps because subconsciously all your stressors with school and work, etc. do not disappear. When you are around for holidays, do you catch yourself still thinking about what exams or events are coming up at school or what you’re going to be doing when you get back to work? These thoughts can effect your sex drive by stressing you out even when you think you’re not stressed out. Sex is a very important part of a couple’s relationship and actually ties into many other areas particularly in marriage, which you might want to think about if you’re engaged. If a couple’s sex life is bad, it can often lead to conflicts in other areas of the marriage. So to me, this is definitely a problem you need to work to solve. Plus, sex gives you endorphins! Making you feel happier and more able to deal with those stressors in your life in a positive, optimistic way. But sex is a two-way street and won’t be enjoyable for your man unless you are enjoying it too. To rediscover your passion for sex, you need to think about the last time you wanted to have sex with your fiance, what were you feeling? What was the setting? What made you want sex? Something your fiance did perhaps? Try to figure that out and reincarnate it, maybe with a romantic scene-like a nice dinner and snuggling in a blanket under the stars. Once you figure out what sparked your lust for your last romp, you can work to figure out what it’s going to take to get it back. Everyone is different for what turns them on, so I can’t exactly give you a “sure-fire” way to get your sex drive back. But I can say that if this problem persists and you can’t figure out how to help yourself, perhaps look into going to a sex therapist in your area. They deal with problems of lost sex drives all the time and could be very beneficial for you and your fiance. I am not a professional YET so I can’t offer a true diagnosis, I can only offer my opinion. (: I hope this helps at least a little and you can figure things out-a lost sex drive is such a shame. <3

This is the same guy from the “aroused by text” question. You’re right, I’m attracted to my female bestfriend but she’s already taken, so nothing I can do about that. Thanks for giving me your opinion!

You’re very welcome sir! (: Sorry about your bestfriend being taken, life is unfair sometimes for sure! Maybe one day she will realize that you would not only be a great bestfriend, but also a lover. (: Thanks again for your question, I love when I get questions from guys!

So I just have to begin this with the common “i love your site” comment because I just stumbled upon this today & im already addicted! Also, I LOVED your answer for the tall guy w/ the short g/f because I can totally relate being 20 and a whopping 4’10 with a track record of dating guys 5’11 & over.
Now for my question :] I don’t normally give oral often, only to those i really feel comfortable with. I’m normally very open & i always ask what he wants & how he wants it. But I was wondering if you have any good tips for me because I’m still learning!

Well thank you very much, that’s what I’m here for; answering questions that perhaps a lot of people have, so you’re welcome. (: Let me start out by saying that you are doing a wonderful job already! Asking a guy what he wants and how he wants it is exactly on the right track to giving a good blowjob. (: This allows you to figure out what he likes and what he doesn’t like, maximizing his pleasure. As far as tips go, I’ll give you some basics, but because of time and for fear of repeating myself, if you want fully-explained tips and tricks check out some of the other “Moaning Monday” posts-a lot of them deal with giving good head. Now for the basics. Step 1 is your eye contact-look your guy in the eyes when giving him head and make it look like you love nothing more than to have his penis in your mouth. Step 2 is to focus on the most sensitive parts of the penis (i.e. the frenulum, the urethral opening and the glans (tip) itself)-licking up and down the frenulum on the underside of the penis, flicking your tongue over the urethral opening, and using your tongue to really work the glans since it’s over 100x more sensitive than his shaft. Step 3 is varying sensations using such things as pop-rocks candy, ice cubes, your breath, etc. and Step 4 is DON’T IGNORE THE LOVE SACS. (: He will love it if you play with his balls. If you use these tips, you should be receiving some praise from your guy. Enjoy, hopefully this was helpful and like I said, for full explanations look through some of the previous “Moaning Monday” questions. (:

heey taylorann! okay, i have a few questions for ya :p . the other day i gave my bf of quite some time oral sex. now i usually don’t do this just cuz it’s somethign i’m not really comfortable with but i decided meh, try something new right. and anyways, while i was doing so, it actually made ME rediculously horny. i’ve given oral before and it’s never done much on my part but this time was different. what’s the deal with that? Anywho second question. i heard that , while having sex, the hornier you ( being the girl i mean) are while having sex, theres a higher chance of pregnancy? is that true? if so why? and third question, me and my boyfriend usually have sex once or at least twice a day and even on some days if wee feel like it three times in a day. is that.. bad? were not sex addicts or anything, we just like to fuck. (lol) . and i know that sex is healthy for relationships, but is that too much? And can having that much sex loosen you up even if it is with the same guy every single time? … that’s all for now! i love your blog btw- keep it up! there’s alot of very helpful tips ;) thankyou.

Hello. (: Thank you! I’m glad you’re finding the blog useful. (; For your first question, the deal is you got turned on watching your boyfriend get off. It’s that simple, hah. It’s extremely common and nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about. Your boyfriend was probably really enjoying what you were doing to him and so that in turn made you enjoy what you were doing, which led to your arousal. Nothing wrong with that my dear! (: For your second question, that is actually true what you heard. The more aroused the woman is during sex, the higher the chance of pregnancy. This is because when women get aroused, the vaginal canal becomes naturally lubricated and you become “wet”. Biology makes this happen so that the sperm have an easier time getting to the egg-the more lubrication, the easier it is for them to swim. Therefore, there is a higher chance of pregnancy because you are making it easier for the sperm to potentially reach the egg. Lastly, in response to your third question, you’re right that sex is very healthy for relationships, but it’s also healthy for you in general! So no, it’s not bad that you and your boyfriend like to have sex more than once a day-it’s perfectly normal. In fact, a lot of couples would be thrilled to have the opportunity to have sex with their significant other as often as you guys do, so I would be damn proud if I were you! (: The vagina is a muscle, therefore it doesn’t just “loosen” up unless you have a child. So even though it does stretch to make room for the penis, post-sex it will go back to its original shape. Therefore, no, having a lot of sex with your boyfriend will not “loosen” you up, so you don’t need to worry. Hope this answered all of your questions, and you’re very welcome, happy humping! (:

i was reading one of the questions on making sure your vag was clean, and you said the discharge shouldn’t smell at all. i smelt mine.. (lol) and it had a smell and it wasn’t a very great one. so i wanted to know how to make it not smell anymore, or if thats normal.

Let me first start by correcting one little thing-the discharge can not have any smell at all or it can smell kind of “musky”. This is perfectly normal and I think most women, including myself, would agree that discharge is actually more likely to smell musky than have no smell at all. Also, a quick note, women are A LOT MORE sensitive to their own vaginal discharge smell, than anyone else. Meaning, what you think smells “bad” or smells at all, probably doesn’t to anyone else except you, unless you have some sort of infection. With that being said, if you REALLY think your discharge has a foul odor, I would also look and see what color it is. If it has a yellowish tint to it, I would go to your gynecologist and have it checked out to make sure you don’t have some sort of infection. If you do, they will give you antibiotics that will clear up the infection, making the foul smell go away. Hope this was helpful!

hi (: i’m a 15 year old girl. i’ve never done vaginal sex, but i have done foreplay etc. i’m always horny, is that weird? i’ve given myself clitoris orgasms, but i want to try something different. i think my vag is too small or something :p i used a mirror to see downthere but my vag hole seems so small & it doesnt even look like a hole o.o i try using a tampon but i get scared, i tried fingering myself but like i think im putting pressure in the wrong area. ive been fingered before but like I cant find my own hole. well i know where it is, but it doesnt look like a hole. im sorry if im confusing you & thanks ! btw: your tumblr is so organized & detailed, love what your doing(:

Hi. (: Thank you so much for the praise, I try to be as thorough as I can with the blog, so I’m glad someone noticed! Firstly, you are not weird because you’re horny all the time. It’s perfectly normal and I think you’d be surprised to find out that a lot of girls are like that, whether they admit it or not. I call people like you, AND myself (: hyper-sexuals, and honey,  it’s nothing to be ashamed of so wear that label with pride! :D Now, I think the best way to go about helping you with your problem is to go over some basic biology with you. Perhaps you aren’t finding the “right” hole. The urethral opening (that you pee out of) is also a hole-a lot smaller of a hole and can cause some discomfort if you try to stick your finger in it, since it’s right above the vaginal opening I wouldn’t be surprised if you accidentally tried to finger yourself using this hole. I’m going to give you a diagram so you can see where each opening is and then you can try and use your mirror again and see if you can locate the right one. (: It’s nothing to be embarassed about, masturbating via the clitoris is very different and easier than masturbating by fingering yourself, so it’s very easy to get confused and frustrated. Don’t worry, I’m sure you’ll get it right. (: I hope this helps, let me know if you still have trouble! Here’s the diagram for you…<3

Hey Taylorann! AWESOME BLOG <3! Here goes my question: I’ve been with my guy for about 10 months total, and we are comfortable with each other. I gave him oral sex, he fingered me, ate me out, but no sex yet. Every time I go down on him, he has an orgasm, but I never do whenever he fingers/goes down on me. I’m so frustrated! I give him directions like “harder” or “faster” but then I have this feeling like I just need to pee. I’ve had orgasms by masturbation before, but none with him! Do you have any tips on how I can direct him without hurting his feelings?

Hey! Thanks. (: Okay, let me just clear one little thing up for you and I think you might be surprised about your question. When you give your guy directions and then you feel like you have to pee, you don’t actually have to pee…that means you’re on the brink of orgasm! A lot of girls have this sense that they have to urinate before they climax and then when they let go, they actually don’t pee, a lot of times it can lead to a “squirting” orgasm believe it or not! I think the way you are directing your guy is just fine, being very direct with guys is definitely the best way to get through to them-they work better with short, blunt directions rather than cutsie, elaborate ones. If I were you, I would try this before thinking about ways to redirect your guy; I would when you get this urge to pee, just let go, let that urge take over you and see what happens! I think you might be surprised and actually have that orgasm that you’re looking for! And who knows, maybe even a rare squirting one! (: Also, you won’t hurt your guy’s feelings by directing him bluntly, guys like to know how they can please you and the best way for them to do that is to tell him what you want. Plus, most guys will think it’s sexy when their girl bosses them around and instructs them on how they can make them feel good. Try my suggestion out and see what happens, hopefully this helps, let me know if it doesn’t and I’ll see what else I can come up with. (:

Cool blog, tons of information. I actually stumbled upon it when I saw a photo of my body piercing on Google, and it led me here. Glad it could be put to use. Take care.

AWESOME. Thank you so much for the compliment! Might I ask as to whether you mean an actual photo of your personal genital piercing or just a piercing you want to get? Either way, I guess a thank you is in order for the photo! It definitely went to good use, so thank you and I’m glad you like the blog. You take care as well. (:

Wait…. OTHER girls have “outie” labia too?! =O I always thought I was deformed or a freak or something!!!
(An admirable mention to my lovely boyfriend who assures me I’m beautiful everywhere… ♥ and doesn’t have ANY objections to the appearance of my lady bits XP) ♥DBP

Well there you have it. If you’re DBP’s boyfriend, congrats on making her feel beautiful everywhere. We could use more men in the world like you. And yes, other girls have outie labia too. You are most definitely not a freak, you are beautiful and unique, just like your lovely boyfriend says. <3

I am 15 and my clit is not responsive!
By “not responsive” I mean, theres no “feeling” when I touch it.
Whenever I masturbate I cross my legs and squeeze my thighs together to acheive orgasm.
I’ve tried many times to find my clit and trying to masturbate with it, but nothing works :( Is there anyway that I can make my clit more stimulating? Many thanks in advance :)

I can assure you my dear, that your clit is responsive, you’re probably just not stimulating it enough to climax. The clitoris is actually the only part of the human body that is only around to serve one purpose: pleasure. It’s job just is to be responsive to sexual stimulation. You won’t get a “feeling” out of your clitoris by just touching it, it takes a little more finesse than that. Try taking your first three fingers (pointer, middle and ring) and putting them on your clit with your pointer and ring resting on the “lips” rather than the clit itself. Then move your fingers in a clockwise (or counterclockwise) circular motion. You can also rub with your fingers up and down across your clit. I’ll post a picture of a clitoris so you can see what it looks like (in case you’re having trouble finding it). You can also get more stimulation for your clitoris by rubbing it up against furniture, pillows or stuffed animals or by using anything that vibrates on it or using a detachable showerhead. Lots of girls report excellent orgasms from using a showerhead to masturbate, so I would definitely suggest you try that if it’s available for you! (: Hope this helps and you find it “stimulating” enough for you. (; Here’s the picture of the clitoris for you…<3 P.S. On this picture, you are looking to stimulate the “glans” part of the clitoris.

hi. been reading up in your blogs. cant help but fall for them! they’re great
but me and my hubby have been together for quite a while and we have had the best sex ever, but lately we just dont have that “spark” its great sex and all but i miss how we used to be. see we just recently had our daughter and ever since then i’ve been very self conscious. i feel like im not skinny or sexy enough for him anymore. so we dont have sex as much when we do i usually like to cover up. he tries telling me that im perfect and what not, but it still doesnt help that if we do not get intimate he masturbates to porn and these pictures on the internet of other girls who i feel look so much better than me.
im at a lose of what to do to get us to be rough and or intimate again.

Hi. Thank you, I’m glad you like the posts. (: It is a very common thing for women to feel like they’ve lost their “sexiness” after having a child because of things such as scars, stretch marks, etc. But what you need to realize is that you are beautiful in your husband’s eyes and you need to believe it! Because you just gave birth to something so wonderful and beautiful to him, and that’s perfection. (: Something so beautiful could not have come from you unless you also are beautiful. <3 So of course he’s going to look past the stretch marks, because they don’t matter to him. You’re beautiful to him just the way you are and if you just have more confidence in yourself, I think you’re going to feel a lot sexier and that’s going to enhance your sex life and get that “spark” back for you guys. I think you also need to have a talk with your hubby and tell him that him masturbating to pictures of other girls lowers your self-esteem and suggest some alternative options. But I do think that that conversation could be avoided if you get your spark back (because then he wouldn’t need to masturbate…). To feel sexier, try focusing on your best assets, the things that you really like about your body and try to accentuate them with whatever will make you feel sexy. Whether it be a new bra and pantie set, a new dress, low-cut top or short skirt, or a new pair of stilettos for your legs! Wearing what makes you feel sexy will boost your confidence and it will also get your man to notice in a good way. (; I think if you just work on getting your confidence up and realize that the reason your husband says you’re beautiful and perfect is because you are in his eyes, I think you will get your spark back. Hope this helps. Much love. <3

the other day, i was giving my boy toy a blow job & we started having sex after. he had to stop after about five minutes, though, because he felt light headed from the blow job lol uhm… is this a good or bad thing? he seemed happy about it, but it’s never happened before, so i was just wondering if this is normal.

thanks! love your blog (=

Thank you, glad you like the blog. (: Now because this question is short and sweet, I’m going to give you a short and sweet answer. Your boyfriend getting lightheaded from the blowjob is PERFECTLY NORMAL infact, it’s better than normal, it’s terrific. You blew his mind girlfriend! Congratulations! :D That’s excellent, that just means that you gave him a really good blowjob and he very much enjoyed it. Light-headedness is just a side-effect of orgasm. Nothing to worry about. And you’re welcome. Hope this answers your question, and keep up the good work. (;