“What’s Your Wildest Fantasy, Ladies?” (;

So first let me start out by saying that I’m really sorry that I haven’t had time to post in forever, I told you those finals would be the death of me. Butttt, it’s SUMMERTIME for me now and I would like to officially inform all my loyal followers that I am back in action baby! (: Today’s post is what you have all been waiting patiently for, since the release of the male fantasy post a few weeks ago, I’m sure everyone wants to know the flip side of that, just what do women fantasize about? Well you’re about to find out. As I’ve mentioned before, fantasy can be a very fun and important part of relationships because they can take you to levels of sexual ecstasy that well…you’ve only fantasized about. Fantasies can either be a positive or negative experience, or both and this is actually more evident in female fantasies because the “rape fantasy” is actually a very common one. Fantasies may reflect past sexual experiences or be an influence for new ones to come.

Here’s something very interesting for you ladies and gentlemen: the brain is the largest sex organ and thought has a major prevalence among sexual behavior…so there is new research being done and it has been determined that because of this, SOME women can orgasm simply from thinking!! Crazy? Awesome? Yes. Like with male fantasies, female fantasies often incorporate similar elements among all of them. But it is true that while men’s fantasies are more physical, women’s tend to be more emotional; involving courtship and romance. This isn’t always true however, some women have extremely physical fantasies. I asked 10 of my girl friends to tell me their fantasies and since only 5 responded, you’re also going to get to hear my fantasy! Yay! So let’s get started, shall we?! (:

1. “I want to have sex on a piano, like the scene from Pretty Woman. I’d also like to have sex in my lab coat or in a dance studio of some kind with lots of mirrors…so we could watch ourselves.”-K.H.

In this fantasy we see several common elements of female fantasies. Firstly the ROMANCE aspect of it, since she states a specific romance movie as motivation for her fantasy. We also see a commonality between men and women here with the SEXY OUTFITS element coming back; men want their woman to be dressed sexy and women want to dress sexy for their man. Also the element of VOYEURISM is evident here with the fact that she wishes to watch herself have sex adding to eroticism.

2. “I want to have sex on a grand piano. I don’t want the piano to be on stage, I want it to be in someones house, in front of a big open picture window. I would love if it was with Andrew Mcmahon, but really, any guy who can play the piano for me will do. I want them to play me a song, any song, as long as its good, and then i want them to fuck me on a piano. And none of that making love, no, its got to be fucking. Hard and passionate. Also I want to have sex on a stage. Like a theater stage. I don’t want an actual audience, but having all the seats, and the thrill of being on stage. I love the idea of getting caught. And that adds to it. There doesn’t have to be an particular set on the stage, but I wouldn’t mind some costumes being used. Nothing special comes to mind, but it could make things more fun.”-S.L.

There are many elements of female fantasy incorporated into her particular fantasy(s). Firstly there is the element of EXHIBITIONISM which is evident both with her wanting to have sex in front of a big picture window where someone could walk by and by the fact that she also wants to have sex in a theater where someone could walk in. There is also the element of PASSION in these fantasies. Women, believe it or not, love to be sexually ravaged. As long as it’s passionate, hot and heavy, it’s all good. She also has the SPECIFIC ANATOMICAL IDEALS element because she knows that she wants her fantasy object to be a piano player and even has Andrew McMahon from Jack’s Mannequin picked out. We also see an element of SEXY OUTFITS here to with the fact that she wants to use costumes from the theater in her fantasy. 

3. “I’ve always wanted to join the Mile High Club!”-M.N.

This fantasy is short and sweet but still has some distinctive elements to it that are common among female fantasies. Firstly, there is the element of EXHIBITIONISM for the simple fact that when you have sex in an airplane restroom you risk being caught by a variety of people. We also can see the element of TRADITIONAL PLACES here because “The Mile High Club” is something that almost everyone has heard of before.

4. “For me it would need to be in a secluded spot outdoors on a warm, sunny day. With a tall, lean guy that was both rugged and firm and also gentle. It would need to be passionate and spontaneous and we would have to be completely in-sync with eachother with the non-verbal communication through the roof. His hands through my hair and intense random eye contact. He should know how I want it and give it to me with an aggressive confidence.”-K.E.

Once again in this fantasy we see the element of EXHIBITIONISM with the possibility of getting caught because you’re outside somewhere. This also goes along with TRADITIONAL PLACES because having sex outside is also a very common spot. We also see SPECIFIC ANATOMICAL IDEALS here with the idea that she wants a tall, lean guy who is rugged, firm and gentle. PASSION is also extremely evident here by the non-verbal communication being shared between them and how she wants their bodies to be totally in-sync with eachother. This goes along with ROMANCE because she doesn’t want to have sex with a stranger for the passion to be this intense, she wants to have sex with someone she really cares about. Looking for aggressive confidence in a guy is a key to the element of DOMINATION, or being sexually ravaged in a passionate way; not forced, but still rough.

5. “I’ve always wanted to have sex in a Victoria’s Secret dressing room. I think the idea of being caught in there is sexy. Plus you can’t go wrong with the sexy lingerie that I’d be trying on for my man, before he rips it off of me!”-K.W.

In this fantasy we see three different elements being played out. Firstly, TRADITIONAL PLACES because having sex in a dressing room is also one of those common places that many women fantasize about having sex in. Next we see the element of EXHIBITIONISM because she thinks the idea of being caught is sexy. Lastly we see the element of SEXY OUTFITS because quite frankly, it’s Victoria’s Secret and trying on lingerie for your man is super sexy!

6. And as for me? What does a future sex therapist fantasize about? “A guy pulls up on a super sexy motorcycle; preferably a crotch rocket or something along those lines, wearing a leather studded jacket, boots, tight jeans and aviators and says to me, “Wanna go for a ride?” and I hop on and we speed off at 100 mph, with me on the front of the bike straddling him, not on the back, to a secluded spot where he ravages me on the bike. I also like to be thrown into walls or tables, or picked up because I LOVE aggressive guys. It should be intense, almost angry.”

In my fantasy I can pick out elements of SPECIFIC ANATOMICAL IDEALS because I want my fantasy object to be wearing specific things, such as a leather jacket, boots, tight jeans and aviators. There is also the element of EXHIBITIONISM because the risk of getting caught is sexy. Also there is the PASSION ideal because I want to be sexually ravaged in an aggressive way; I’m okay with becoming the sexual “plaything” for a romp. This goes along with DOMINATION because the guy would be taking control.

So now that you’ve seen what common elements these  female fantasies have, let’s take a look at the top ten list of female fantasies and then you can be the judge (ladies) whether your fantasy-beside for unique, personal details of course-has one of these common features to it.

10. Having sex with a stranger

9. Having a three-some or an orgy.

8. Dominating the fantasy object.

7. Having an audience watch you have sex.

6. Being sexually ravaged.

5. Having sex with another woman.

4. Being a stripper or a prostitute.

3. Having two men be all over them at the same time.

2. Being the man for one night…literally. Having a penis. Wearing men’s clothing and a strap-on penis.

1. The “rape” fantasy. Mainly being the sweet, innocent little girl who is forced to lose her virginity.

Fantasy brings nothing but good things to relationships and now that you know what both men and women fantasize about (generally speaking of course!) you can try to incorporate, if you wish, one of these elements into your sex life if you feel like things are lacking. Who knows, maybe this is exactly what you need to spice things up! On a final note, don’t ever be embarrassed or ashamed to share your fantasies with your partner, you could both benefit from it. Enjoy and have a great Thursday night everyone! (:

Being sexually ravaged or dominating is a surprisingly common female fantasy. Remember that, boys. (;