Hey guys I know I’ve been really busy lately and will continue to be busy the entire week until this weekend when I finally move home for the summer! (: But I thought I would take a little study break to answer everyone’s burning questions from last week. Thanks guys, I got around 18 of them I believe, it really means a lot to me that you guys value my opinion! All of you are wonderful and thanks for following even if you don’t ask me anything. (: Anyways, I’m sorry to report however, that I will be out of town NEXT “Moaning Monday” so any questions I receive after today will have to wait to be answered until the following Monday (May 24th). So just a heads up that you will probably have to wait for a response if you ask me any questions this week, unless of course they are what I’d like to call, “an emergency question”. Then I’ll of course get back to you ASAP! Anyways, let’s get to the questions, sorry for the rambling! Enjoy! (:

Hey Taylorann <3 I love everything you do and you’ve brought to my attention the study of sex therapy in which I’m very interested in now. However, before I can give others advice, I need yours first! So, I’m in my first relationship, we’ve been together for a little over 5 months and I’ve given him oral and he’s fingered me real good! When he does it, it feels soooo amazing but how do I know which I actually orgasm? He asked me if I climaxed, but I don’t know what its like because I’ve never done so before. Help?

Hi. (: Thank you so much for the praise firstly, I think it’s great that you’re interested in sex therapy and I’m glad I could help you find this new interest! I must tell you this though, out of pure love of course! That if you are planning on giving people advice, I don’t suggest doing so until you really know what you’re doing. Just having a lot of sex with someone or knowing a lot of sexual techniques does not really constitute for you giving really good advice. I suggest taking quite a few human behavior and sexuality courses before offering advice to others, just to be sure you’re giving correct information! Butttt on to your question. (: The fact is everyone feels different things when they orgasm, there is no perfect “how-to” for orgasming. But I can give you some general principles for common feelings and then you can assess whether you’ve climaxed before or not. Firstly, if you don’t know whether you’ve orgasmed before or not, chances are that you haven’t. Most people KNOW when they have an orgasm for the first time because it’s unlike anything they’ve ever felt. A general orgasm feeling is a sense of “warmth” radiating throughout your entire body. Or in many cases (especially while doing mutual masturbation) you feel like your body is going to explode if you keep letting your guy please you. An orgasm in women also generally causes vaginal contractions, it will kind of feel like your vagina is pulsing. Now sometimes these contractions can be VERY STRONG and then women report their toes curling, being breathless, feeling dizzy or light headed and even their entire body shaking (this usually happens to me). A good rule of thumb? If while your boyfriend is fingering you, you feel like you can’t take it anymore and you start squirming when he touches you, chances are you are climaxing. But like I said, everyone is different because all human bodies are different, but I’m almost positive that you will know when you’ve had your first orgasm. (: Hope this helped and that’s awesome that you enjoy sex therapy! Much Love! <3

Hey Taylorann, I just wanted to thank you for your advice. It was really helpful:) Keep up the amazing work!

Awe, I’m so glad! You’re very welcome. And thank you, I’ll do my best! <3

Hi! I love your blog!
Recently, within the past 2 or 3 weeks my boyfriend isn’t able to get very hard again after sex. At first it didn’t bother me to much, but now it’s getting a little frustrating, we used to be able to have sex for hours. Now I’m often left unsatisfied. Is there something we could do so this wouldn’t happen, he’s only 18 as well.

Hi! Thank you! (: A quick assessment question for you: how soon after sex are you trying to go for round two? A lot of guys have an issue getting it up after already having sex once because they aren’t given enough of a “rest” period. Guys have a longer refractory period (the phase after orgasm) than women do, this is why we women can have multiple orgasms and men USUALLY can’t (there are always exceptions though). My suggestion is to give him a little more cool down time between romps. But that doesn’t mean your “cool down” time can’t be hot! (; Try watching a sexy movie in between romps together, that will keep his mind on sex, so when he’s ready he should be able to jump to it. You could also try giving your man a cool rub down with an ice cube, the sensation will keep things sizzlin’ for you. You could also try giving each other sexy naked massages focusing on erogenous zones such as the neck, earlobes, hair follicles and nipples, that will get his engine revving again. Lastly you guys could enjoy a tasty treat before burning those calories off again (; Try some chocolate covered strawberries, or popsicles, anything that draws attention to your mouth is good, pretty soon your man will be dying to get a taste of that! Hope this helps, good luck!

just wanted to say thanks for the advice :)
it worked :):):)
I also realised why I thought I was lacking, it wasn’t me.
I read your blog on guys who are ‘party animals’ and how they ‘lack in the sack’. He is a big drinker and smoker so the issues that were presented are not my fault.
thank you again :)

You’re extremely welcome sweetie! You go girl! <3

Okay, so I hear my friends and sometimes my sister and her friends talking about their guys eating them out. & they’re talking about being clean and smell and stuff like that.. What exactly is “clean” when it comes to that?

See, truly the female vagina is like a miracle-worker all by itself. I mean, we can push 10+ cm baby’s heads out of it and to answer your question, the vagina has it’s own built-in cleaning system! The acidic PH (produced by good bacteria in your body) of your vagina helps to protect it from infections and when the vagina is healthy it produces natural vaginal discharge as a means of self-cleaning to flush out any bad bacteria that may cause an infection. Your natural vaginal discharge (which all women have everyday in various amounts) is either clear or milky looking when it dries in your underwear and does not smell foul (in most cases it doesn’t smell at all). So your vagina is really very clean all by itself and does not require you to clean inside it at all. Actually if you do that with any kind of soap, you may cause yourself to get an infection! But a nice soaping up of the mons pubis (the part where you pubic hair grows) and the outer labia will keep you feeling and smelling fresh and won’t irritate your vagina. Also beware…doucheing (flushing out your vagina with some kind of liquid) is actually NOT a good idea because it can also irritate the inside of your vagina and cause an infection. So basically, your pussy is very pretty all by herself and doesn’t need a lot of “extra” care. Hope this helped. (:

Well hello there! I am a new follower and I just wanted to say thank you because you have given me some new ideas on how I can spice up my sex life with my boyfriend! But, I had a quick question about a fact you posted this week about semen? You said if my man has not orgasmed in awhile that I should look for a sweeter taste. Well is that the same for all men?

-Shavon

Well hello Shavon, thanks for following! (: I’m very glad I could help spice up your sex life, that’s what I’m here for! About your guy’s semen. If your guy hasn’t orgasmed in a while, his semen will MOST LIKELY be sweeter tasting because he will have a build up of fructose in his semen (which I’m sure you know, is a sugar compound). This is not like something to “watch out for,” it’s not a bad thing at all, just something you might notice. And it might not be true for all men; depending largely on what your guy eats and drinks. If he drinks a lot of caffeine or alcohol and eats a lot of cabbage his semen may be bitter tasting. Also if he is a menthol smoker-it’s likely his semen may taste like menthol. If your guy eats a lot of dairy products, drinks a lot of milk or eats a lot of red meat his semen may be salty. Also have your guy avoid garlic and onions, those contain a lot of sulfur and his semen’s taste will suffer from it. :| If you are looking for a sweeter taste; your guy probably should eat a lot of fruits with natural sugars in them, lemon, peppermint and cinnamon. Also most other vegetables are good for semen taste. So depending on what your man eats and drinks, his semen could taste like a variety of things and may not necessarily be sweet tasting. Hope this helps!

Okayy, i love your blog it is freaking awesome, i gotta say! Anyways i just have a little problem/question, me and this guy have been talking for about four months now and well he TRIED to finger me, and his fingers are freaking huggeee, and i tell him to stop so it’ll stop hurting. What can i do so he can just go right in and we have fun? (;
thank you!

Haha well thank you, I’m glad you like my blog! (: Well my best guess is that the cause of your discomfort is coming from your lack of lubrication. Before your guy fingers you, you need to make sure you are really turned on so that your vagina will produce its natural lubricant. Try thinking of your sexual fantasy, turning on some sexy music, or anything else that will turn you on. Thinking of anything to put you in the mood will be good for your natural lubrication because your vagina will receive the arousal signal from your brain. If natural lubrication is not enough for you, which it might not be, and if you’re still in pain, then I suggest buying a synthetic lubricant from your local drug store (FYI: store brand lubricants work just as good as more expensive brands for what you need them for, so go ahead and buy cheap!). Have your man put some lube on his fingers so that they will go in easier. You can put some in your vaginal opening also if you desire. Hopefully this will solve your problem, good luck and have fun! (;

Hi Taylorann, I adore your blog <3 Well, I’m a 15 year old girl that’s still a virgin but one thing I was really curious about is… what’s the proper way to shave your pubes? I’ve tried it before and the first time it was smooth as a baby’s bottom! But as the hair grew in, I tried to shave it off but it would just get really bumpy and irritated. So, what do you recommend for a girl like me? ):

Hi (: Thank you very much <3 What you’re most likely experiencing is the loveliness of razor burn. Some simple suggestions? Make sure you are shaving with the grain, never against it. And try not to use perfumed soaps or lotions as this can irritate your mons (the part of the vagina where the pubic hair is). When you get out of the shower, moisturize. Now, sometimes getting rid of razor burn can be a bitch, trust me I know. And sometimes it requires a little more care so I’m going to give you the same website (razor-burn.com) I gave to another girl who asked about shaving (in case you need some more detailed help!) Enjoy and I hope this solves your problem!

In certain cases the hair are cut so short as to get under the skin and when they grow back, some of them pierce the skin causing inflammation and razor burn. Have a look at what all constitutes improper shaving:

a. Lack of sufficient skin lubrication.

b. Using too much pressure while shaving.

c. Shaving against the grain of hair growth.

d. Shaving pubic area too frequently.

d. Using after-shaves and colognes that dry and irritate freshly shaven skin.

So, the key to flaunting your shapely legs and that itsy bitsy bikini is to shave right.


Preparing to shave

You can prepare your skin for shaving as follows:

a. Shave at night rather than in the morning. Since shaving removes the dead skin cells and the superficial layer of the epidermis, a morning shave is more likely to expose this weakened skin to external elements. Shaving at night gives your epidermis the entire night to regain strength and suppleness.

b. Clean your skin thoroughly before shaving to prevent infection or burns. The best way is to shower and then shave. This will not only clean the skin, but increase skin elasticity and soften your hair.

c. Apply shaving cream or gel, whose ingredients, like aloe vera, further soften the hair and help the razor to glide smoothly over the skin, avoiding damage. Lather the cream by back and forth motion and leave it on the skin for two minutes before shaving.


Shaving

Using a sharp blade is your best bet, as a dull blade tends to scrape the skin, resulting in red spots, especially on sensitive bikini area and the underarms. Shave this area using short strokes, no more than an inch. Don’t apply pressure and shave along the grain of the hair growth. Don’t go over an area more than twice. And rinse the blade after every stroke to remove hair and dirt stuck to it.


After Shaving

It’s best to leave the skin alone after shaving by not apply anything. This gives time for the skin pores to close. An hour for this purpose is sufficient. And remember not to expose your skin to direct sunlight or any other possible source of irritation, like sea water, lotion, perfume and the like during this period.

To hydrate and re-moisturize the skin, apply an alcohol-free after shave. This will also soothe the irritation caused by razor burn. If despite this your skin gets razor burn, apply an alcohol-free antiseptic or an aloe vera based cortisone cream twice a day to soothe the area and get rid of the redness.

hi tay, i have a bit of a problem. i’m 19 and still a virgin, but if i had the choice i wouldn’t be. the problem is the way i look down there. i have what only can be described as elephant ear like labia, they stick out a little and are like wrinkly, dark flaps. i’m already lacking in the confidence department, so the idea of getting intimate when i can’t stand how my labia looks prevents me from allowing that wonderful experience of sex in. is there some way i can boost my self esteem? it’s getting so disappointing that i’m considering labia reconstruction surgery, i don’t know how any guy could find this sexy. thanks for the help <3

Hi sweetie. Okay when I read your question I got so sad that you see yourself that way and don’t find yourself sexy. ): That’s such a shame. I want you to know something very important honey: NO ONE IS PERFECT. We all have imperfections that we don’t like about our bodies. Whether it be our stomachs, thighs, boobs, butts, or vaginas. The key is to learn to accept what you have been given and to find a way to make yourself realize that you are a sexy woman that any man would desire! You can be the sex kitten you want to be if you just have a little confidence in yourself. Let’s start with your basic biology, okay? There is no precise dimensions or color that the vagina is supposed to be. Labia that protrude a little bit is PERFECTLY NORMAL. All labias are different, in fact, I think you’d be surprised to know that a lot of women’s labias stick out and especially when they are aroused; labia engorgement is normal and welcomed. Next, it’s also perfectly normal for your labia to be a different color than your mons pubis or your skin, and it’s also normal for them to be color coordinated. All women are different and unique, that is what makes us so beautiful! Now let’s see if we can work on boosting your confidence. Always work with your assets! What is something that you really love about your body? Focus on that and wear something that makes it stand out and makes you feel sexy! Confidence is the sexiest trait a woman can have, so wear something that gives you that confidence and makes you say, “Damn. I am sexy!” I’ll tell you a little secret: men love the pussy. No matter what she looks like. Just the fact that you let him see your pussy will make him drool all over you. Men find vaginas beautiful works of art that all women possess and they appreciate them no matter what they look like. So chances are, when in the bedroom, your man is not going to be focusing on what she looks like, he’s going to be focusing on what YOU look like. (: If you’re really concerned about it, try having sex with the lights off, then you can be sure he won’t be focusing on what your labia look like. Please don’t get surgery, there are so many risks involved with it including losing sensitivity; which means you might never have a mind blowing orgasm that you deserve! All women are beautiful and unique and you are no different. I’m sure you’re a beautiful girl and with a little confidence hopefully you will see yourself that way too. My heart goes out to you. <3

So I have been with this guy a couple of times. He is fairly more experienced than I am, and I find myself getting super nervous and awkward. I haven’t even been on top yet. He has been really nice about it and hasn’t tried to make me feel uncomfortable. I am not sure what to do to gain more confidence in this area. I want to be able to get on top of him with no problem and rock his world! Tips?
P.S. I love the blog :)

I can see how nerve-wracking it can be to be with a new guy and how it may feel awkward at first. But if he’s being really nice about it and doesn’t make you feel uncomfortable, then you really have no reason to be nervous. (: Rocking a guy’s world is easy, all you have to do is be naked! haha. Taking initiative is definitely one of the sexiest thing a girl can do, because he will look at you like you’re confident in what you’re doing (even if you’re not!). Try this fun trick on for size (; Walk up to your guy while you’re wherever it is that you’re going to get it on and trace your hand along his boxer line while you kiss him like you mean it. Then take his hand in yours and lead him to wherever you want him to go. With just one finger, and a sexy smirk on your face of course, push him down on the bed, couch or floor and climb on top. Now take the reins by ripping his clothes and yours off-his eyes will be fixated on you at the right angle, and he will definitely enjoy the view! Once you’re naked, you’re going to want to try a simple girl-on-top position. This is really easy since you’re already straddling him. On your knees, with your thighs closed tightly around his side, allow him to enter you. Then you can control the timing and the speed of his thrusts by giving him non-verbal cues with your body. Try things like moving your body up and down or side to side and occasionally swivel your hips in a complete circle for clitoral satisfaction. (; As long as your confident in what you’re doing, your man will think you’re sexy no matter what you’re doing to him. Hope this helps!

Is there any way to seductively remove your own or your partner’s clothing? I find it’s usually just kind of awkward.

Oh yes, there are definitely seductive ways to remove you and your partner’s clothing! (; Let’s start with removing your own clothing. Step away from your partner to do this so they have the best view of your entire body. Always remove belts with one hand if possible and crack it like a whip (if you catch my drift?) by pulling it out fast from your belt loops. Next very slowly unbutton your pants and pull down your zipper-the slower, the better because you’re going to be building anticipation. (; Now when you’re down to your underwear, work on your top. Cross your arms and grab the bottom of your top and pull it up and over your head-this is the best way to remove a top because as your doing that your stomach is stretching, making it look really sexy from your partner’s angle. Next, always remove your bra first (if you’re a girl) before removing your panties. The best always comes last! Unhook your bra with one hand and just let it hang there for a second, barely covering your boobs. Then with both hands, reach up and pull it off completely very slowly. Now last but not least, your panties. You can tease your partner by swiveling your hips and kind of “shimmying” while giving your partner a preview of your butt, but not taking them off. When you’re ready to take them off, go slow and step out of them daintily. Now for your partner. (: If at all possible-use your mouth for as much of the undressing as possible-this will work well with practice for the button on your partner’s pants. Also, remember to take belts off with one hand, if possible and lift your partner’s shirt up and over their head. Also grab your partner’s pants/underwear and shimmy them off. You taking initiative at removing your partner’s clothing will be the sexiest part of the whole experience and no matter how you do it they will love it. Have fun! (;

first off, I really appreciate this blog! it’s very interesting and helpful. i was just wondering about when the girl rides a boy, what;s the best way to do it? my boyfriend wants me to try it but im just afraid i wont do it right. any tips?

I’m glad you enjoy the blog, that’s great! Riding a guy is simply any “girl-on-top” position and I gave the simplest of them above in a question that I answered (2 questions above ^^). I suggest that you try that, because I think you’ll have the most success and response from it. (: Just read what I wrote above because it would be pointless for me to repeat myself and I’m going to tell you the same thing. I think if you try that, you’ll be just fine. Good luck and ride him cowgirl! (;

Hi! :) This is more of a question about masturbation. When I masturbate, i dont really go inside of the vagina, i just rub my clitoris and it feels soooo good. My toes curl and i feel like i cant breathe (i sometimes moan) and i usually have to stop after 2 or 3 minutes when it gets to the this point because my clitoris feels so insanely sensitive and it starts throbbing.. it feels amazing. Im starting to get addicted to it, i masturbated twice today to get this feeling. Is that normal? How do you know that youve reached an orgasm? And where can i find my g-spot? Thanks for the help in advance :)

Hi! (: Well I am pleased to inform you that you are PERFECTLY NORMAL! (: And also I think congratulations are in order because you, my dear, have reached orgasm! lol. So to answer your question about reaching orgasm, sounds to me from what you’re describing that you’ve successfully reached it. Orgasm involves contractions in women and the “throbbing” you feel is because of that. (: So for your last question; the way to find your G-spot is to sit in a comfortable position and slowly insert two fingers into your vagina with your palm facing up. The G-spot is about 2 inches in your vaginal canal and straight up about 2 inches on the upper vaginal wall. It will feel like a fleshy pad, similar to the roof of your mouth, but thicker. To hit it, make a “come here” motion with your fingers and if you feel a sensation, you’ve most likely found it. Hope this helped and you’re welcome. (:

Hi, I have only had sex once and it was drunken sex and I’m so ashamed about what happend and feel used because he won’t even talk to me about what happened then, nobody knows about it and now I am dating another guy and he has been hinting to sex but i’m not sure if I should tell him about the other time and I’m afraid that he will hate me if he finds out and what if I tell him and he gets angry at me.
Do you have any suggestions on what I should do?
From Jeanette from Norway ^^

Well hi Jeanette from Norway! (: I am really sorry for what happened to you, we all make mistakes in our lives, but you can’t let that affect your new love life. I actually think you should tell your new guy about what happened before, and tell him how you feel about it and that it was a mistake and wasn’t enjoyable for you. I don’t think he will be mad at you being honest about a mistake that you made in the past. If you don’t tell him, you’re going to be going into this relationship with guilt and that will prevent you from enjoying your sex life with this new guy. He will not hate you for making a drunken mistake. Just think of it this way; by telling him, the guilt will be off your chest and you can focus on making your second sexual experience a truly great one with a guy you really care about. (: Hope this helps, good luck sweetie!

Hi Taylorann! I just wanted to start off by saying I love reading your posts! They are always so informative!

My question isn’t necessarily about sex, so much as it is about the relationship AFTER sex. I’ve been seeing this guy for about 2 months now and a few weeks ago we decided to have sex with each other. Being that this was our first time being intimate with each other, he didn’t last long at all. I knew he was embarrassed so I did my best to comfort him, and he seemed to get over it. Now, after the fact, he no longer initiates any sort of anything (whether its daily conversations, dirty texts, oral or intercourse). In your opinion, do you think he is still embarrassed from what happened? Is this something I should confront him about or just wade it out? I just feel like, the way he’s behaving is indicating there isn’t much left for me in the relationship and I’m almost ready to pack my bags and walk away.
Thanks!

Hi! Thanks for the praise, that really means a lot to me. (: It’s tricky being intimate with a new partner because they’re different than your last in many ways, so it’s always a new, exciting and sometimes awkward experience. Because he saw your body for the first time and the way you two fit sexually together, it’s definitely not uncommon for guys to not last very long the first time. But after the initial “get-to-know-you romp” things should improve in that department. But if he’s not initiating ANYTHING sexual with you anymore, it does raise a red flag to me that he may still be feeling self-conscious about the last time you two had sex, which I’m sure is leaving both you and him sexually frustrated! My advice is to talk to him about it, express your concerns and ask him what’s up and figure out a way together to confront his issue, whatever it may be. If you wade it out, he’s going to think that it’s a non-issue for you and he may never make mention of it, which will ultimately continue to make you both dissatisfied in the bedroom. I agree that if this is a serious issue for you and if talking to him doesn’t work to correct the problem, then maybe this relationship isn’t the best for you…you should be happy in a relationship in all aspects, including your sex life. But I think you should give him a chance to explain himself, and work to see if you can solve this together before dooming the sexual relationship you have together. Good luck, I hope everything works out for you!

hey =] just wanna say i find your blog really helpful. and with that, i kind of have a question. my boyfriend right now is younger than me (he’s 15 and im 17) and less experienced. like a LOT less experienced. i was his first kiss, and basically i had to instruct him on how to do it. anyway, we’re planning on having sex, and i dont want him to feel like i’m telling him what to do, but i don’t really think he’s gonna know what he’s doing. how can make sure that our first time isn’t like our first kiss?

hey (: I’m glad you find the blog helpful. I understand that while your guy might think that you bossing him around is sexy, it can grow tiresome for you because you want to enjoy it and not just play sexy teacher all the time. There are several things you need to consider for your first time together. Firstly, does he know what he’s doing with a condom? That’s the most important thing I can stress because you don’t want any mishaps in that department, that’s for sure! I think you taking the reigns on this part could be beneficial and very sexy for him. You should consider putting the condom on for him. (: Just remember these few things: check the expiration date, check for tears in the foil, make sure the air bubble is still in tact. When you’re putting the condom on, make sure that you put it on the right way! Pinch the tip of the condom with one hand and roll the condom down your guy’s erect penis with the other, making sure there is room (where you pinched) at the top of the condom for the semen to collect and make sure the base of the condom fits snugly around the base of his penis so it doesn’t come off. Now, if you don’t want to do the work, then maybe you could “hint” at looking at some basic sex info websites where he can learn basic positions like missionary and basic anatomy lessons. Websites like sexinfo101.com and wikiafterdark.com are perfect for those “how-to’s”. I suggest you do a simple position like missionary for his first time though, so you don’t overwhelm him. It’s pretty simple to do and the only work you have to do is maybe guide his penis to your vaginal opening, this is both beneficial to ensure accuracy and sexy because you’re taking control. You decide how to want to “teach him”. If you stick to the basics and help him out a little bit in certain areas, I think you’ll be in for generally smooth sailing. Good luck. (:

Hello!
I’m 23 and have been going out with my first girlfriend for 5 months now. She was also my first partner. I am pretty conservative when it comes to talking about sex and actually prefer NOT to although once in the bedroom I really let loose. My girlfriend and I both enjoy BDSM occasionally although I have a hard time with this. Not that I’m uncomfortable with it, I very much enjoy it, but I’m having an extremely hard time telling her what I want her to do. I would like her to dominate me and have a lot of things in mind and I know she would love to do them but it’s like I have an internal censor that won’t let me say it. I also have a hard time dominating her when she wants me to. Even though she tells me to do things to her and spank her, I have a hard time bringing myself to do it out of fear of hurting her.
What do you suggest?
Thank you,
A.H.

Hello A.H! (: Firstly I think part of your concern comes from the cultural taboo of BDSM that it is somehow painful for couples, and this is simply not the case, if things are done properly. BDSM should be something that both partners enjoy and are comfortable doing. If your girlfriend likes to please you and you think will enjoy doing what you want to tell her to do, I think you just need to relax and unblock that mental censor. Think to yourself, “I know she’s going to love this and I’m going to love this. I’m not going to hurt her and we’re going to use a safe word so I know when to stop.” and then do those things. If you’re concerned about physically hurting her, you need to come up with a “safe word” to use so that if something gets too uncomfortable for her she can say that and you will know when to stop. Also if she wants you to spank her, try starting off lightly tapping her and only increase the pressure as she asks you too, then you’ll know for sure how much she likes/can handle from you. I think once you try some of these things for the first time, your mental block is going to go away. I think you just need to relax, take all necessary precautions to ensure you both have a good time, and just let go and try some of the things you think about on a daily basis. Sexual exploration is a very healthy part of a couple’s sex life and nothing to be ashamed or afraid of. Trying new things helps you to figure out what works for both of you and what doesn’t. If you never try, you’ll never know, right? Obviously I don’t want you to be uncomfortable doing anything, because sex should be enjoyable, but I think letting loose and broadening your sexual horizons with your girlfriend will leave both of you feeling very satisfied. I just want you to have the best sex life possible. I hope this helps, good luck!

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