Well it’s Monday again, thanks for all the great questions this week guys! (: I received about 7 of them, which is actually the perfect number for this week because I am extremely busy preparing for finals, so it’s kind of nice not to have so many questions to answer. But because it is the start of my two-week hell hole, my posts might be kind of sporadic over the next two weeks. So sorry about that, but I’ll do my best to keep posting everyday. Now, onto the questions, yes?! (:

Hi :) I’m a new follower of your blog and I absolutely LOVE it. :D
I’m 19 and have a long distance bf that is 30. most people think thats kind of weird but I am way more mature than most 19 year old so I want stability, maturity, and experience in a man. ;) We’ve known each other for a year and been “dating” 4 months. ANYWAY lol im still a virgin and he obviously is not. He’s amazing and says that he loves my innocence <3 but sometimes I feel rather inadequate lol. I’m kinda shy so it’s really hard for me to talk dirty, I tend to just giggle…ALOT haha, so could you give me some tips on talking dirty maybe? :D I know my bf would greatly appreciate it as would I, I would love to be able to make him as horny as he makes me. :D

Well hi! (: Thanks for following me, I’m glad you enjoy my blog as much as I enjoy writing it! hah. Let me first say that I don’t think it’s weird at all that you have an older man. Everyone is different about what they’re looking for in a relationship. So I think it’s great that you found a real man to satisfy your needs. (: First thing you need to know, is that it’s perfectly normal to giggle when thinking about talking dirty to your guy, because well, you’re a girl and dirty talk isn’t USUALLY something that rolls right off the tip of the tongue. But don’t worry, you can train yourself to be a dirty-talking sex goddess. (; Firstly; CONFIDENCE CONFIDENCE CONFIDENCE! Be confident when you talk dirty to him, because confidence is sexy, and your guy will definitely notice the confidence in your voice and take what you’re saying to him a lot more seriously. Which will in turn make him think about how sexy you sound when you talk to him, which will get you the horny satisfaction you are looking for! So take a few deep breaths before you talk to him, relax your body and your mind so your speech will flow better and just think to yourself how much your man is going to enjoy listening to your sexiness! (; As for things to say to him, think about his 5 senses, and use them to your advantage. Say things like what sexy outfit you’re wearing (sight), how bad you want to put chocolate syrup all over his body and lick it off (taste), tell him how hot his scent is (smell), how bad you want to run your hands all over his body and where! (touch) And then of course add some moans for his listening pleasure. The key to talking dirty is to be confident in what you’re saying and to be creative; say things that turn you on just as much as you think will turn him on. Hopefully this helped, go get him girl! (:

I’m pretty open-minded when it comes to sex but the idea of anal is still very iffy to me. Even though I’ve done it before, I have these concerns that it can actually be bad for you if you do it too often or something? Do you know if doing anal can actually be harmful or if this is untrue?
And I absolutely love your blog, it has been so helpful and has answered many dwelling questions for me!

Well I’m glad you enjoy the blog and that you find it helpful, that’s always my intent. (: There is absolutely nothing wrong with having anal sex, whether it be once in a while or all the time. An extreme misconception about anal sex is that it can cause hemorrhoids or somehow manages to cause you to have uncontrollable bowel movements, and this is definitely not true. Also there is this idea that anal sex is supposed to hurt and that’s why a lot of couples don’t engage in it. But anal sex is not supposed to hurt, in fact it’s been known to relieve tension in your lower back region, making orgasms even more intense! Go slow and take your time and you shouldn’t experience pain, if you do, stop for a while and try again. So even though anal sex is not harmful to you, there are a few basic things you should know. Firstly, the only “harmful” thing that you should be concerned about is tearing your rectal lining, because it’s made of an extremely sensitive membrane. The best way to avoid this is to simply use lube. I can’t stress that enough, USE LUBE. Don’t ever try anal without it. Also, if your partner’s nails aren’t trimmed and you try finger anal play, the nails could scratch/tear your lining also, so make sure your partner has well-groomed nails. The other thing about anal I can’t stress enough is hygiene/condom use. If your guy is going to vaginally penetrate you after having anal make sure he washes his penis thoroughly and puts a new condom on, because if you don’t you could get a nasty bacterial infection. Overall, anal sex is not harmful to you as long as you use your common sense and go slow. Hope this helped!

My boyfriend was fingering me, he is really good at it, but today something unexpected happened, after I got the orgasm when he got the fingers out, they were bloody and I started to bleed, is that normal?, he had his nails trimmed.

There are a few different reasons for why this could have happened, and most of them are very common, so I wouldn’t be too concerned about it unless you felt severe discomfort when it happened, or if it continues to happen. And if either of those occur then I suggest you go see your gynecologist. Okay but firstly, I know this is going to sound like a stupid question, but it’s best to think of all possible causes! Are you positive you didn’t get your period early? That could (obviously) cause bleeding, although it seems like this is probably not the case. Even though your guy had his nails trimmed, if he was fingering you really hard he still could have scratched your vaginal walls (these are made with extremely sensitive tissue, it doesn’t take much to scratch them) and that would cause bleeding. I’m guessing this is what happened, and if so, tell him to be gentler next time. Also, always make sure you are completely aroused before getting fingered, anytime there is not enough vaginal lubrication, it just makes it even easier for the walls to be scratched. The last possible cause I could think of is, are you still a virgin? Perhaps your boyfriend was fingering you so hard that it actually broke your hymen, which would in turn, most likely also cause bleeding. Any of these are possible causes, but they are all fairly common, so like I said, I wouldn’t worry about it unless it caused you severe pain when it happened or if it happens frequently. Hope this helped. 

This really isn’t a question, this is more of encouraging words I guess. You had a girl who was talking about being uncomfortable with her boyfriend going any farther because of her weight. Id just like to tell her she has no reason to be. Im 5’11 and 175 pounds. I have rather large thunder thighs and child bearing hips. And although I have my days, I know I’m damn sexy. The guy im currently with tells me very often how much he loves my body. 5’11 and 150 pounds, I’m sure she’s a beautiful girl. Girls like us, have to accept and love our curves. Everyone has their insecurities, but all of us are beautiful. And I just want her to know that. :)

Well there you go, if you are the girl from last week and are reading this, this comment goes out to you. <3

Hiya Taylorann,
I’m one of your many followers and fans on Tumblr, normally the one who would just read and rarely would consider asking.
However, I see how great your advice is and I was wondering if you could pleaseeee offer me some.
See, the thing is I’m seeing this guy and we’ve hooked up and he is fantastic but i feel like I’m lacking a lot, and normally when I get that feeling I go down on them cause I have been told I’m you know, good at giving blow jobs… but when I do it’s almost like he hates it and I have no idea what to doo… He said the first time I did it was alright and all the other times are average…
I know it seems quite pathetic but that was like the only thing that I new I was good but now I dont even know if i am actually good at it anymore…
So, my question Taylorann is,
Are there any tongue tricks etc that I’m missing out on here that makes average head incredible?

Thank you very much for the compliment! (: Well firstly honey, you should have more confidence in yourself! You say you always feel like you’re lacking in the hooking-up area? Why is it that you feel that way? I think you need to work on making yourself feel like a sex kitten, before you work on your guy. Because to tell you the truth, a big part of what your guy is probably thinking about it is how uncomfortable you look/act when giving him head, because you think you’re bad at it. That’s the first trick I’m going to give you; get into it. Look like you want his dick in your mouth! Guys LOVE it when you look like you’re enjoying pleasing them, seriously, so any kind of great eye contact you can make with your man or an occasionally smile in between sucking, will work wonders for you! (; As for specific tongue tricks, there are definitely some fun things you can do. The three most sensitive parts of the penis are definitely things not to be ignored! One of them is the Frenulum; which is an elastic band of tissue that runs from under the glans, all the way down the underside of the penis. Lick up and down this and you’ll know you’ve hit the right spit because of his reaction. (; The next spot is the glans (tip of the penis) itself; it’s actually A LOT more sensitive than his shaft, so something you can do is just focus on sucking on the tip or putting it in your mouth and making a circular motion around the outside of the glans with your tongue. He’ll love the swirling tongue action, plus the glans will be sliding around in your mouth so it will hit its most sensitive parts on different parts of your mouth. Bonus sensation for him! Lastly, the urethral opening (the hole on the tip) is actually super sensitive too, so you can run your tongue over top of it and that will give him good sensation too. Also, generally speaking…try using your hands to work his shaft while you use your mouth on one of the above mentioned spots, that will really make him moan, this I can assure you. And don’t forget the love sacs, playing with his testicles will heighten his arousal, you can do pretty much anything to them, just remember to be gentle! Hopefully this gives you some good ideas that will blow your guy’s mind…and his load. (; Enjoy.

Hey TaylorAnn! I”m in love with your blog and I’m finding it very helpful.
Anyway, on to my question, I’ve been talking to this guy for the past month or so, and we’ve had sex multiple times (including phone sex) and I know that I’ve been starting to have feelings for him. I’m too much of a coward to ask if he feels the same way. So how would or should I ask if he likes me back and its not just about the sex? If it helps any, we’ve been talking on the phone non stop and we call eachother things like ‘“nane”.

Hi! (: Thank you very much, I’m glad you like my blog! And I think I’m going to start out answering your question by telling you a little story. One of my very best friends had a somewhat similar situation. She had been talking to a guy for a while and one night hooked up with him and after that had continued to have sex with him, and they talked on the phone and texted everyday. She started out saying that she wasn’t looking for anything and was fine with what they had, but then she too, developed feelings for this guy. She also was scared to tell him because she didn’t want to ruin what they had-well she eventually did tell him and he told her she was acting too much like a girlfriend (which he wasn’t looking for) and he “broke up” with her and then started hanging out with his ex not long after. So he used her. For sex. My advice to you sweetie, is to DEFINITELY tell him how you are feeling, and ask him if he feels the same way. If he does, yay! and then you guys can start a relationship, but if he doesn’t feel the same way, stop sleeping with him. Don’t do that to yourself by staying in “fuck-buddy zone” because one way or another you will get hurt. Now, if you guys talk on the phone everyday and have cute pet names for each other already, then I’d say there is a good chance that he does feel the same way as you. (: So telling him how you feel will quite possibly work out really well for you guys. Maybe he’s just waiting for you to make the move. But you do need to talk to him, because it obviously isn’t all about the sex for you, and if it is for him, then you need to get away from that ASAP and move on to find something better, if that’s what you’re looking for. Talk to him and see what happens. That’s all I can really suggest. I hope this was helpful for you and that everything works out just the way you want it to. <3

hi tay :] this is Nica. Im the one who asked you about the Nordette thing.. thank you for sharing your thoughts about it. This isn’t really a question but a favor. Could you give me a list of songs/artist on your SEXY SONG SATURDAY?? thanks..

Hi Nica (: You’re very welcome and absolutely I can do that for you! I’ve only had 10 so far, so I’ll give you those, but be sure to keep checking every Saturday for new ones. These are in order from the first one posted, to the most recent. Hope these tunes enhance your sexytime! (;

1. Let’s Get It On-Marvin Gaye

2. S.E.X.-Nickelback

3. Wicked Game-Chris Isaak

4. Take My Time-Chris Brown

5. War In Your Bedroom-A Change Of Pace

6. Bed Rock-Young Money

7. Addicted-Saving Abel

8. Sex Me-R. Kelly

9. Rude Boy-Rihanna

10. Not Myself Tonight-Christina Aguilera

so i need some tips. My boyfriend and I have been messing around for about a month and everytime I give him head it takes him a longgg time to cum and usually he doesnt cum bc we dont have time to go extra long and take our time bc of where we are, but he told me I should go faster, its kind of hard to, but I will try. any tips on how to make it easier or give a good BJ ??? thanks

Don’t worry, I completely understand your concerns about not having enough “private time” to get the job done. That can be very frustrating for both of you. Also, some guys just take longer to finish than others, and it doesn’t help when you have to try and rush things. You can definitely try going a little faster, if that’s what your boyfriend wishes. Grab onto his shaft with your hands for some support while you increase your speed. This unfortunately, is where a lot of girls have problems with their gag reflexes acting up. Try to block what’s physically happening in the back of your throat, by thinking of how happy you’re making him! Gag reflex is just a psychologically conditioned thing, you can get rid of it with practice-then going faster won’t be hard at all. Generally guys want you to try and deep-throat when they ask you to “go faster”, this is why I bring up the gag reflex thing. Another thing to remember is that the tip of the penis is more sensitive than the shaft, so it might be easier to go faster if you just focus on moving your mouth up and down the tip of the penis at a faster pace, than the actual entire penis itself. If you want variations for tongue techniques and such, look at the above other question I answered about giving blowjobs. A lot of great tricks are mentioned above (I just don’t want to repeat myself!) So be sure to look at that! Hope this helps. Good luck with your boyfriend! (:

okTaylorann, you seem like the perfect person to ask this question, and i hope you can help!
so me and my ex lost our virginity to each other at the age of 16, we were unexperienced and learned things with time together. we were with eachother for 14 months and we were both passionate about pleasing eachother. needless to say, i was very good at trying new things and pleasing him orally. it was obvious with his body language.
the issue is that he was black and i’m white (yes they ARE bigger) and i think that for some reason, he was not able to please me during intercourse! it felt ok, by no means was it bad, but i never climaxed during full on sex. i almost liked it better when we just fooled around and he fingered me.
the other thing is that i was always too self-conscious to let him go down on me and give me head. he kept saying that guys loved doing that stuff but i don’t believe him.
I know what an orgasm is supposed to feel like because i have attained numerous by means of self-pleasuring. so why is it that my ex was not able to satisfy me in that way?? does it have to do with size, self-conscious anxiety…?
I mention my experience with my ex because since then i have only had a few drunken 1 night stands and i didn’t really have any better luck with reaching the big O via penetration.
So what’s the deal here? would it feel better if i let guys give me head? is there size issues that inhibit pleasure..
please help, i hope i’m normal.
thanks,
mystery of the O

Dear Mystery of the O,

Thanks for your faith in me, hopefully I will be able to help you out! (: Let me first start out by saying that YES YOU ARE NORMAL. The female orgasm, especially the G-spot orgasm, is quite possibly the most elusive and mysterious thing in all of human biology! A lot of women can climax via clitoral stimulation just fine by masturbating, but can’t climax through g-spot stimulation when being penetrated. The problem does not lie in the size of your ex’s (or one night stands’) penis, in fact most women think that the larger the penis, the better the chance for orgasm (that’s a biological myth, but nonetheless) so him being too big should not INHIBIT your pleasure. The truth? It’s all about angles, baby! (; I think you just need to try some different positions to try and hit your G-spot. Doggie-style is an excellent position to try out, also any girl-on-top position will give you G-spot potential. Another fun one to try out is the leg-lock, where you sit on the edge of a counter or table or washer or whatever and lock your legs around your guy’s waist as he enters you, the angle is perfect for hitting your G-spot. Now as for you being self-conscious about your guy going down on you, I definitely think that your anxiety is preventing you from having an amazing sexual experience. Your ex was right, guys generally do love giving their girl’s head, it’s the same as you wanting to give your boyfriend a blowjob-you want to please your partner and oral sex is a great way to do that. If you’re extremely self-conscious about it because of hygiene reasons then try freshening up a bit before letting your guy go down, then you’ll feel better about it and that will in turn enhance your pleasure. Women have some pretty fantastic orgasms from oral sex, so maybe that would help you. Remember though that unless your guy is also fingering you while going down on you, oral sex will give you a clitoral orgasm-not a G-spot orgasm-that needs to be obtained by penetration or fingering. I hope this was helpful for you, I want you to have the best sex life possible, but only what you’re comfortable doing. (:

Well there you have it guys, keep up the great questions for next week! If you’d like to ask me something for next week’s “Moaning Monday” don’t be shy!

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Thanks and have a great Monday night everyone! <33