Well it’s that great day again! Thanks guys for all your great questions! I really appreciate your trust in my responses. Keep up the great work guys, you’re the ones who make “Moaning Monday” happen. (: Well, let’s get rollin’ with the questions, shall we?!

Ok I know this is probably going to be the weirdest questions ever, but I need help!! So my boyfriend and I do a lot of foreplay, dry humping & we sometimes like to use handcuffs and ropes. (My idea , not his and everything is non-penetrative…for now) But he came up with this idea for me to wear a gag. I made one myself by tying 2 long gloves together in a knot and he puts the knot in my mouth to bite down on. Its hard for me to get used to.I can’t buy a real 1 because I still live at home but I don’t want to choke on 2 pairs of gloves. So how can I get used to a gag? and do you have any better ideas of what I could gag on to make me feel more comfortable?

First of all, this is not the weirdest question ever. (: You may be surprised to know that a lot of couples enjoy sexual bondage play as part of their sex life. As long as you play it safe and consensual it can be a very intimate and beautiful experience; because despite what people think, bondage is meant to feel good, not cause harm. So no worries, I think it’s great that you and your boyfriend are comfortable enough to try new things together. That’s what a great relationship is all about. (: To get used to the gag idea, all I can say is practice makes perfect. Try using objects around your house that would give you the “gagging” effect to try and get used to the sensation. For example; use your toothbrush when you are brushing your teeth, stick it down your throat as far as you can without gagging and then pull it out again. Now, obviously this isn’t the same thing as biting down on a knot-but it will train your brain to not give you the “choking” reflex when you do have something in your mouth. It just takes practice to get used to that sensation and shut it out of your brain. As far as things to use for a gag, I have a couple suggestions for you. You could try household objects such as scarves (the dressy-silk kind, I don’t suggest those big, heavy winter ones!) or bandannas. Both of these are comfortable and you can fold them so that the gag will rest towards the back of your open mouth, instead of biting down on a knot. Now, if you’re interested in having a more realistic gag, you can actually make your own for only a few dollars! And it’s safe, works just like a real one, and your mom won’t know what the supplies are for when you make it. (; Here’s how: you are going to need to go buy some plastic golf balls that are used for practice (i.e. the ones with the holes in them), some leather cord (36 inches to be exact) and either an emery board (nail file) or some sand paper. First, take the emery board/sand paper and file down the seam, all the way around, on the plastic golf ball that you’re using-you don’t want any sharp edges or anything that could potentially cut your mouth, right?! Next, take the leather cord (36 in.) and thread it through the golf ball holes. When the golf ball is centered, tie a knot on one of the sides, right up against the golf ball. Then, pressing the golf ball tightly against the knot, tie the knot on the other side, so the golf ball won’t slip. And presto! Your very own homemade gag. (: The great thing about this is you can clean it really easily by untying one of the knots and sliding the golf ball off, then washing it in the dishwasher or just with soap and water. When it’s clean, just put the golf ball back on and retie the knot and there you go. (: Hope this helped, have fun!

Hi Taylorann! I love your blog & fascinated with the subject of sex even though im still gaining more experience. My question is about a females G.Spot and having orgasms. I haven’t had one and my doc told me it was normal. However I really want to have that experience. However how do you know where your g.spot is? Because it surely has not been found.

Hi! Sex is a wonderful thing, I’m glad you’re fascinated with it; there is always something new to learn no matter how experienced you are. What your doctor told you is correct; while all females have a G-spot, sometimes a lot of women feel like it’s power is too mysterious for them and they don’t know where to start. To know where your G-spot is you need to know your basic anatomy. Here’s how to find it with your fingers (palm facing up): lie on your back and spread your legs with your knees bent so your vagina is wide open and easily accessible. Your G-spot is about two inches inside your vaginal opening straight up on the upper wall of your vagina. It will feel like a fleshy pad (actually kind of similar to the roof of your mouth-if that helps!) that may be anywhere from a quarter of an inch to a couple inches in length. It’s made out of highly sensitive tissue and when you touch it the right way; it will produce feelings of sexual happiness, that many would argue are better than clitoral stimulation. When you hear of women squirting, this is where it comes from. The G-spot is very similar to the male prostate and when aroused MAY produce ejaculatory fluid. Something that might make it easier for you to find your G-spot is to think of a sexual fantasy or watch some porn or do whatever it is that will turn you on. When you’re aroused, the G-spot fills with fluid and get engorged, making it easier to locate. Hope this was helpful. (:

Hello :)
so, my boyfriend and I are VERY sexual. But he has never finished from me giving him head; he says that it feels amazing and that he loves how I do it, so I don’t understand why he can’t finish and what I need or should do to help him be able to finish? Also, sometimes when we have sex his dick will go soft in the middle of intercourse; sometimes it happens the first time we have sex but most of the time it happens if we do it again after he has already finished once in a short time span. What causes this? and is there anyway around it?? Thanks :)

Hello. (: It’s really great that your boyfriend doesn’t make you feel insecure about your ability to please him, but I can understand how frustrating it can be because you just want to give him the same pleasure as he gives you. First of all, you’re not doing anything wrong, some guys just take longer to finish than others. And you’re especially not doing anything wrong if he tells you that he loves it. (: I can give you some tips to help spice things up and see if you can get him to finish for you. If you say you and your guy are very sexual, then perhaps you can try teasing him during the day and then giving him oral at night. By teasing him throughout the day (send him dirty texts or pictures, brush against his goods, have a nice make-out session…anything to get him aroused, but not over-excited) the body produces more fluid so he’ll be ready to ejaculate quicker when the time comes. Also when you’re giving him head try varying your techniques. Try incorporating ice, hot/cold beverages alternating, pop-rocks or other things to increase sensation for your guy. Also, don’t ignore his love sacs: play with his balls while you give him head. Massage them, kiss them, lick them, suck on them, whatever gives you a good response from your guy. Also remember that the glans (tip) of the penis is the most sensitive, so focus your mouth on that, and try using your hands to work the shaft. A lot of guys report that feels the best when you combine techniques. In response to your other question; the most likely reason for your guy going limp during intercourse is because you did not give him a long enough refractory period in between romps. Guys are not like girls, they need time to rejuvenate before going in for round 2. The way around this problem is to simply give him time. Guys are all different, so the amount of time he needs could vary, you might need trial and error to figure it out. But just because your guy needs some time to get hard again, doesn’t mean you need to stop the fun. Having a hot make-out session, giving him an icy cool-down with ice cubes, or giving each other sexy massages are all ways to keep the fun going while you’re waiting for your next romp. Hope this was helpful, good luck! (:

Hey Christine,

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost eight months, I’m beginning to encounter some… issues. I took his virginity (there’s about a one year age difference between us, with me being the older one) and while things started off rocky like I had anticipated, they got much better. However, anytime I try and do something new, try a new position, it usually ends up not working because he had almost no idea what to do and I don’t want to be there barking orders at him while trying to have this be some experience that both he and I can enjoy. So, I end up going to a simple missionary position and allowing both him and I to finish. The one thing that I really miss about my previous relationships was the spontaneity that we could have in the bedroom, and I feel like my libido is starting to be affected. So, I guess the question is, what do I do? I’m madly in love with him but I’m worried our sex life is taking a turn for the worst.

Hi. (: My name is Taylorann, not Christine, so perhaps you submitted your question to the wrong blog? But I’m going to answer your question anyways, regardless if it was intended for me or not. (: Trust me, I know exactly how you feel. I have a “friend” who is in a very similar situation and I know how frustrating it can be when your partner is not on the same page, sexually, as you are even though you may absolutely love them with all your heart. And you may think to yourself, if we love each other, why isn’t our sex life showing that? It’s hard going from a previously spontaneous sex life and then having to turn it down a notch just because you’re with someone new who isn’t quite as experienced as you. This can work to your advantage though (after addressing the issue though) because you have the power to train your man into doing what you like and you can be more experimental with him because he hasn’t experienced many things yet. But before you get to that point, I definitely think it’s time to have a little chit-chat with your man about how you’ve been feeling. Try explaining to him that you want to be more spontaneous in the bedroom and that you feel like your sex life isn’t where it should be. If he really doesn’t know anything besides missionary position, this is where you get to be the sexy teacher. (; Read about different positions together that you could try, watch porn together, and watch sexy movies together to get ideas on things you could try. Then try things out and see what works for you guys; if you make it known to your guy that you want to try something new, then when the time comes he won’t think you’re barking orders at him. You guys will both be more comfortable and can try different things on a trial and error basis, allowing you to be more experimental in a learning-process way. If you’re patient with him and convey to him how you’re feeling and what you think you could do to make it better then I think you have a good chance at solving the problem. Sex should be enjoyable to both partners, and if one person’s sex drive is not being satisfied in the right way, it can lead to distress and even make other parts of your relationship suffer and that’s definitely not something you want. I hope this helps and good luck with your man!

Okay, I have a question: But first of all, I’m not a virgin. But, when a guy is pleasing me by my clit, my legs shake so much and I can’t take it for too long! But what would happen if I kept letting the guy please me? I feel like my body will burst if I keep him going longer. I eventually skwirm so much that I eventually push him off of me.. That’s usually why I like agressive guys in bed cause they can handle me.

It’s perfectly normal for your legs to shake extremely during clitoral stimulation, it happens to a large population of women, including myself, and the reason you can’t take it for long is because you have reached orgasm and that’s great! Your clitoral orgasm is sending spasms through your entire body-which is good, nothing to worry about-and that usually sends your guy the message that he’s doing something right. (; It’s fine if you push the guy off of you, a lot of women convey to their men that “they’re finished” by doing this. If you keep letting the guy please you, I can assure you that your body won’t burst, but if you can stand it long enough, the sensation will eventually die down as you reach your resolution phase (the phase that occurs after orgasm). This phase could be very short for you though, in which case, you may have several orgasms (awesome, right?!) in a row. Anyways, what you are experiencing is completely normal of female orgasm, and that’s fabulous for you, nothing to be worried about. If you think you can stand more pleasure, keep your guy going until you absolutely can’t stand it anymore and then sit back and bask in the lovely afterglow of a mind-blowing orgasm. (:

I’m pretty sexually experienced, but I’m curious if the G-spot really exists or not? I’ve heard a lot of contradicting stories and it is very confusing.
I feel like it does exist because some positions will give me a much more intense orgasm such as doggie style, but does this mean that the G-spot really exists or its just a really good position?

It’s no wonder that you’ve heard many contradicting stories about the G-spot. It’s an extremely mysterious and elusive organ and up until recently, it even baffled sex researchers as to whether it existed or not! But I am pleased to tell you, that YES, it does indeed exist. It has been documented by medical doctors using MRIs and biopsies. The G-spot is fleshy pad ranging from a quarter inch-a couple inches long on the upper wall of your vagina, about two inches into your vaginal opening. The G-spot is very similar to the male prostate gland, because it produces similar chemicals in the tissue surrounding it. It also engorges with fluid when aroused and some women can have a “squirting” orgasm from it being stimulated. The reason you feel a more intense orgasm from doggie-style is because of the angle that the penis penetrates the vagina; it is a great position for direct G-spot stimulation. And since doggie-style has the penis entering from the rear, unless your guy uses his hands, there is no way the penis comes in contact with your clit (your other pleasure button), therefore you assume correctly that you are having a G-spot orgasm from doggie-style. (: It’s a beautiful little entity, feel proud that you have mastered how to evoke it’s power, a large amount of women have yet to learn how. So congratulations, hope this helped, and enjoy!

Hi there,

first of all I love your blog. I think its great, very educating and entertaining and You give some pretty good, thought-through, un-clicheed answers. Thanks for that.
Now why I am writing to You: I guess it is pretty common but I still dont know how to deal with it. My boyfriend and I are having dificulties with him comming too early or sometimes even having difficulties “getting it up” (He is 39, I am 25). I have been very understanding so far. I treat sex as a very natural, fun and adventourous thing and try him to see it in the same way, without putting any pressure on “sex” but experimenting and see what works best instead. However, so far we havent actually tried anything (cause we just dont know what?) to actually to change this problem. We have done our sex in a way that we make me come via other things then intercourse (sometimes I even do it myself parallely) but to be honest…I really long to have “normal” sex with a hard penis that lasts a little longer then just 3 Minutes….especially since I have never ever had problems in coming via normal intercourse and now I do. This really is a problem because I also dont want to put pressure on my boyfriend but do notice that I am getting frustrated. Its very tricky, he says its “all in his head and he didnt used to be like this” but then how can it change? Any hints? Thanks in advance!

Hi. (: Well thank you very much for the praise! That means a lot to me! And you are right that premature ejaculation is a fairly common sexual dysfunction among men, but have hope, because there are definitely some things you can do to work on solving this problem. Firstly, since you said he says it’s all “in his head and didn’t used to be like that” makes me wonder, like you, what changed? If I were you, I would ask him if any of his previous sexual partners did anything different that made him last longer and then if he says yes, try out those ideas and see if they work. If it is a psychological problem then the absolute best idea would be for him to go see a sex therapist and see if they can get to the bottom of what is really going on, especially if this is a new development (80-90% of men can be cured through therapy). Sex therapists are specifically trained to deal with helping people overcome sexual dysfunctions, so that could be extremely useful for him. Also by seeing a sex therapist, if it is a new biological problem (which I highly DOUBT, because 39 seems a bit too early for that onset, but nonetheless something to think about) they can perhaps prescribe medication to help him out (Viagra or Levitra), but keep in mind this would only help with his “not being able to get it up,” which doesn’t seem to be the real problem here which is why I’m doubting that it’s biological. SO, some things you can do yourself to help premature ejaculation: the most common solution, that even therapists use, is called the “start and stop method”, during this your guy is going to thrust until he can feel himself start to reach climax (but before the point of no return), then you’re going to stop for a little bit until the urge to ejaculate goes away, then he is free to start thrusting again and so on. This is very effective because it is teaching your guy how to have more control over his ejaculatory reflex. Another thing is to tell your man to practice good breathing-good breathing can help you develop more control over ejaculation. Tell your guy to take deep, easy and relaxed breaths during sex, this will help him relax his body. You can also use things to desensitize your man, which will help him control ejaculation, desensitizing creams work very well but guys usually complain about them because they can’t feel very much of anything during sex, and that’s no fun. Condoms actually work great for just the right amount of desensitization, plus they provide protection, if your boyfriend doesn’t use a condom-perhaps it’s time he does. Also, by varying your positions during sex you can prolong ejaculation, when he feels a climax coming on in one position, switch positions-this will give him a little time to relax the ejaculation tension, allowing him to go for longer. A tip: missionary position is NOT a very good position for controlling ejaculation, so you might want to avoid that one. Your guy can also prolong ejaculation by working his PC muscles, have him practice exercising those muscles everyday (clench them for 3 seconds, then relax for 3 seconds, and do that 10 times). I hope this was helpful for you! Good luck, I wish you guys the best! (:

What is your opinion about online dating? My mom has always said it’s gross but is it really that bad? Or does it just have that taboo for me since that’s what I was raised to think?

Thanks, I love your blog so much.

My personal opinion on online dating is that there is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with it. Thousands of people have successfully found their life partners through online dating sites, and they are especially useful for those people who may not having time to partake in the typical dating scene-perhaps because of work-related issues, health reasons, or another plethora of things. Yes, it’s true that sometimes things don’t work out, but that’s true of the naturally dating scene too, it’s not limited to online dating. Everyone has to go through a few wrongs before they find their right. (: I’m sorry that your mom thinks it’s gross, perhaps it’s because she was raised in a different time when internet dating was just unheard of. But unless she’s tried it, I don’t think she has the right to judge. I think you think it’s taboo because that’s what you were raised to think. If I were you, I wouldn’t listen to anyone’s opinion on the subject, I would just try it out yourself and see what happens. If it works for you, fantastic, if it doesn’t, that’s okay too. It never hurts to try, right? (: I would research different online dating sites and find one that you find legit and think has your best interest in mind. The two sites I am familiar with (and you may be too) are match.com and eharmony.com. You could start there. Don’t be afraid to form your own opinion when it comes to how you want to run your dating life, only you know what works best for you, not your mother. Good luck. (:

The question I have is, I’m currently with my first love, and we we’re virgins, until our first year in college. We’ve tried everything, I’ve been on and off on birth control (The Pill- Ortho), we’ve now sticking with condoms. Reasons for this, is because I’ve been spotting and it was just ruining my cycle, it also affected my moods and I didn’t feel like myself. Now being off it, my boyfriend keep with the condom, and just some occasions we do without, but its pretty good, I mean I know about the whole pull out to cum thing doesn’t work so well. But when mistakes happen we go to plan parenthood buy the plan B and then when my period comes a little late I get check and find out I’m negative and continue life. So My question is…. Can the girls vagina the “Labia” or “Lips” can they become stretchy? I mean can the vagina be loose? I know its weird to ask, or maybe you don’t get what I’m asking. I’ve been having sex with my boyfriends just about everyday, and had more then one orgasm in one day, w/out toys. I just wanna know if a vagina can become loose…

Okay first of all, to me you are asking two different questions so I’m going to answer them that way. First you’re asking whether the Labia can become stretchy, and then you go on to ask whether the vagina can become loose? Hopefully that is correct. To answer the first part about whether the lips of the vagina (the labia) can become stretchy, they can over time. BUT it would take some SERIOUS, purposeful stretching to do so. We’re talking specific weights that you can buy to put on your labia to stretch them. If your boyfriends are occasionally pulling or sucking on your labia, they are not likely to become stretchy. So unless you are purposely trying to stretch your labia (which I don’t really understand why anyone would want to do that…), the answer is most likely no. If you think they are getting longer or stretchier it could be because you see the swelling of them as they become engorged with blood during arousal. Secondly, unless you have recently had a child (and sometimes not even then) your vagina will not become “loose”. The vagina is a muscle, it’s flexible, and can adapt to any penis’ shape or size, even if your man is extremely large-the vagina would become loose enough to comfortably allow intercourse and then return to it’s original state. If you feel like your vagina is loose during intercourse it could be because you are comfortable with your partner, so your body and vaginal muscles are relaxed. If you want to “tighten” things up for you and your man during sex, try flexing your PC muscles, this will narrow your vaginal canal making a snug, ultra-frictional fit for your guy. There is a VERY RARE condition called “slack vagina” that some women have that would appear as if a woman’s vagina is too loose, and if you’re really concerned about it, you can go to your Gynecologist and he/she can check it out for you, although I really doubt you have that. So, your vagina is more than likely, not too loose, but if you are really feeling uncomfortable about it, have your doctor take a look. Hope this helped.

So I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years, when we had sex, of course i bled and he was freaking out and pull a towel on me…. anyways after that funny situation, the next few weeks I would “wet” his sheets and now I don’t wet/cum (or what ever the term is) so much as i did before, Is it possible to try and become like i was before?
Thank Mimi

Hi Mimi. (: What you had before was what a lot of women call a “squirting orgasm” and yes, a lot of women would kill to be in your shoes, so it’s a good question to ask whether you can go back to having those fantastic orgasms. The thing is, squirting orgasms are a tricky thing. Some women can have them all the time, some can never have them, and some women have them once in their lifetime and never again. It all depends on your body. So to answer your question; it is POSSIBLE that you could have another squirting orgasm, but I can’t tell you when or if it will indeed happen. It’s all a biological process. Your best bet though to achieve another one of these orgasms is to orgasm via the G-spot (if you have no idea what I’m talking about-see 2 of the above posts dealing with the G-spot). You can achieve G-spot orgasm by positions such as doggie-style and girl-on-top or even through fingering if your guy knows what he’s doing. If you have such an intense G-spot orgasm, there is the possibility of squirting again, although as I said, there is no guarantee. Sorry if this isn’t what you’re looking for, female ejaculation is a very mysterious subject, but I hope this was somewhat helpful. Good luck.

Can I get STD’s with my partner when we’ve only been having sex with each other? He’s my first and I’m his first.

While it is most likely that you will not contract an STD (but still a chance) from having intercourse fluid exchange with your partner if you are each other’s firsts, there are other things to consider. You can contract an STD if your partner has had oral sex with another person, and then you give each other oral sex. You can also contract an STD through unsterilized needles, such as dirty tattoos and for drug use (not saying you do either of these things-but just something to be aware of!) My advice to you is to not take a chance. Having your guy wear a condom greatly reduces your chance for STDs of any kind. Birth control pills do not protect against STDs. Always have your guy wear a condom, this includes when you are giving him oral sex! Also, if he is giving you oral sex you can use a dental dam (or a latex glove with the fingers cut off, or saran wrap!) to protect yourself. You just never know with these things, don’t take the chance, wear protection all the time.

Hi Taylor! Really love your blog! Anyway, so I’ve been in a relationship for a little over 5 months and I’ve given my boyfriend oral sex and that’s the furthest we’ve gone. I’ve given him extreme pleasure; making him cum like a monster and making him shudder from his orgasms ;) Anyway, my boyfriend has my idea of the perfect body and I don’t find anything wrong with him. Me, on the other hand, I have stretch marks on my hips and thunder thighs (I have some curves, 5’11” 150lbs), he’s seen them and has accepted me for them anyway which makes me feel a lot better. Anywho, I’ve never received oral myself and I can only imagine how amazing it would be, however, I’m very self conscious about my ‘down-under’. I take good care of it and everything but I have a birth mark down there and it must sound silly but that takes away all of my confidence to go further with him. I don’t know how to tell or explain how he feels or if I should mention it at all. I know he loves me but the constant thought of rejection is always in the back of my mind. Any advice?

Hi! Thanks. (: Awe honey, it is such a shame that your lack of confidence is what is preventing you from receiving oral sex, it’s such a lovely thing, and you for sure deserve to have amazing pleasure, since you give so much to your boyfriend! If your boyfriend loves your body, then that should be an extra confidence booster for you, since he’s the only one that matters. And if he loves you as you think he does, you should definitely talk to him about your insecurities, I’m sure he will be very understanding and encouraging and sweet about it. You should not feel uncomfortable about your special mark, because that’s exactly what it is, special. You’re different in a good way, not a bad one. You need to realize that and I’m sure your boyfriend feels the same way. You should not be concerned with rejection, if he loves you, he loves every part of you and is probably just waiting with anticipation for you to allow him to shower you with pleasure like you give to him! (: Talk to him about it, don’t be embarrassed, I have a really good feeling about it. Guys are usually very understanding about girl’s insecurities and I’m sure your boyfriend is no different. Talk to him about it, I don’t want you to miss out on the great pleasure that is in store for you. Hope this helps, be confident sweetie, I’m sure you’re absolutely beautiful, you just need to realize it. <3

Would you mind explaining some of the different birth control pill options and their pros/cons. I want to get on one and I just kind of what a look at what they have to offer (ie: how effective, how often do I menstruate, how often do I have to take a pill…etc etc).

Because there are virtually SO MANY different kinds of pill options; I’m going to give you a great web resource that you can look at that tells you about all the popular brands and gives you all the important information you need to know about using them. There are just so so so many that it would take forever for me to list them all for you, so luckily this website did it for me. (: Keep in mind, there are things to note though: do you want a progesterone-only pill or a combination pill of estrogen and progesterone? (Most girls choose the combo pills). Also what are you using this birth control for? If you are using it for acne; ortho-tri-cyclen is a very popular pill, but it definitely has it’s risks that you need to look into. Also if you want a pill that allows you to go longer without a period; Seasonique and Yaz are popular, but Yaz has recently had to change their advertising because they are having so many issues with the risks associated with it, so I would DEFINITELY consider that before taking that pill. Also you should consider how much you weigh, the smaller you are, the more side-effects you could encounter when taking a pill, so maybe you want to go with a low-estrogen dose pill (which is what I take). There are so many things to consider, hopefully this website helps you figure out what you’re looking for. BUT you really can’t get on birth control without going to your Gynecologist, so they can ultimately help you make the correct decision on what is best for your body. Here’s the website, hope this helps! (p.s. the website only deals with combo pills, but I’m assuming that’s what you’ll probably want anyways)

http://contraception.about.com/od/prescriptionoptions/p/Combination.htm

Hey, I have a question. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 2 years. We were each others first times almost a year ago. And about 5months ago, he went for 6minutes. that is rather epic for him. haha. but, apart from that one time, he lasts for a matter of seconds when we start sex. He knows this and apologises all the time and I have told him it doesnt matter, but in all honesty, it does a bit, and Im not sure why because Im not usually bothered. Maybe hes not lasting long because he is getting bored of me or something? When I talked to him about it he said he isnt and he loves me and what not, and I do believe him but its just a bit of a downer haha. Anyway, any suggestions? Is there something I can do that will make him go for longer? Thanks.

Premature ejaculation seems to be a popular topic this week! And because of time shortage, I’m going to answer by saying that you should read the two other posts above that deal with premature ejaculation and take the same ideas. Please don’t feel like I am shorting you on your answer, it’s just that I will pretty much tell you to try the same things that I told them too and that would just waste space. You know? (: So, yes, there are some possibilities that could help with your boyfriend’s problem, read the above posts to find out what they are. Hope that helps! (:

what are some fun things that will drive your guy wild on when giving him head?

There are many things you can do that will blow your man’s mind during oral sex! Good blowjobs are all about variations and spontaneity. So I’ll give you some tips to use to your advantage. First of all; varying sensations can rock a guy’s world, so you can try using different things to make these. You could try using Pop-Rocks, mint toothpaste, breath mints, hot/cold beverages, ice cubes, etc. to give your guy crazy sensations that he’s never felt before! Also, just remember that the tip of the penis is the most sensitive part-the shaft actually doesn’t have much sensation-so the more you focus on the tip, the better off you’ll be. Try taking the tip in your mouth and circling it with your tongue while working the shaft with your hands. The combination feels fabulous to guys (it’s like when a guy fingers you and licks your clit at the same time!) and plus by using your tongue, the tip will hit different parts of your mouth, making more sensation. Another trick you could try is tipping your guy’s penis toward the ceiling and taking his balls in your hand. While you massage your guy’s balls in your hands, take your tongue and lick up the underside of the shaft-this will hit his most sensitive parts on the shaft itself. Going along with his testes: don’t ignore the love sacs. Guys love it if you play with them, lick them, kiss them, or suck on them as long as you do it gently. And last but not least, LOOK AT HIM. Guys love it when you look like you’re enjoying what you’re doing, it makes them enjoy it even more. If you use one or more of these tips; I’m pretty sure you’ll get the result from your man that you’re seeking. Have fun! (;

hey i really like this guy and i think we’re going to have sex pretty soon. the problem is im not very experience because up until now ive never had to do any of the work when ive had sex. but this time i want to try but im scared that im going to disappoint him. could you please give me some tips?

If you’ve never had to do any of the work before, I can understand your concern with disappointing your new guy. The best recommendation I can give you is to try a girl-on-top position because then you can show off how much control you can have over satisfying both of you. By using a girl-on-top position, you can control the timing and the speed of his thrusting, making it also extremely satisfying for you! (; For a simple girl-on-top position, straddle him and have him enter you then move your body up and down or side to side to create the sensation you want. Also if you want clitoral stimulation from this, trying grinding your clit against his pelvic bone while you’re having sex in a circular motion. If you want a more complicated version of this, why don’t you try out last week’s position, the “Straddle his Saddle,” it’s excellent for girls to demonstrate that they know how to work it! (; Try any of these and you surely won’t be a disappointment. Good luck and have fun!

What’s the easiest way, besides having sex, to break your hymen? & if you can stick two fingers up your vag does that mean you’ve torn your hymen?

There are soo many different ways to stretch or break the hymen before having intercourse. So many in fact, that a lot of girls don’t even realize they’ve broken theirs! You can break your hymen by playing vigorous sports, doing gymnastic (like the splits), horse back riding or by falling (which I don’t recommend you trying to do purposely!). I actually broke my hymen when I was about 11 or so by falling off my bike and didn’t realize it till years later. Also, if you already wear tampons, there is a chance that you may have already broken it as well. Also using dildos and vibrators that go inside your vagina can also sometimes break your hymen. If you really want to break it before having sex, I would go see your doctor, they can do it for you and especially check whether it’s broken or not, so you know! Hymens vary from girl to girl, some are thin and some are thick, so more pressure may be needed to break some than others. So the ability to stick your fingers in your vagina may or may not mean that your hymen is broken, it will stretch it to some degree for sure, but it really depends whether it will break it or not. I would really go to your doctor and ask whether your hymen is still in tact or not, so you know. Hope this helps! (:

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