Hey guys! It’s that fabulous day of the week again where I answer all of your questions from the previous week, I’d just like to say thank you all so much for the questions, there are all together 22 of them this week! Wow! I must warn you in advance, that this just might be the longest post to date, so you’ll just have to bare with me. (: Keep up the great work guys, the only reason “Moaning Monday” is so awesome, is because of all your questions. So I really appreciate it. Also, quick note: I know that yesterday I didn’t post-for one because I’ve been extremely busy all weekend with Sexual Health Week on campus and two because I didn’t receive as many submissions as I would have liked. So…I have decided to postpone the post on “coming out stories” until next Sunday. I really could use some more submissions guys, so if you are one of my LGBTQ followers and wouldn’t mind submitting your coming out story, I would REALLY appreciate it! (: Anyways, here we go with all those questions. Enjoy!

Ok, So i have a few questions for you and i just want to say that i had a great time reading all your posts.
1. Ive been with my boyfriend for over 3 and a half years and although we have gotten past the new ,adventurous side to sex, our sex life is still really good, I just want to know, Do you have any tips on how i can be sexier or get him begging for more type of thing. When i think about stripping sexily or anything like that i feel stupid and get embarressed.

2. I love the idea of standing positions, to me they seem a lot more sexy than lying on a bed. But my boyfriend is week and i wouldnt say im heavy, but im not stick thin and i know he wouldnt be able to lift me. Do you have any advice?

Thanks very much, I look forward to hearing your answer xx

Well first of all, thank you very much for the compliments, I’m glad you enjoy the blog. (: I’m gonna answer both your questions individually for you:

1. The definition of what constitutes as “Sexy” really depends on the person, but I can give you a few tips. First of all, don’t feel embarrassed about stripping for your man! You’ve been dating him for over 3 and a half years, the comfort level that you two should have by now should not make you feel awkward about showing off your body for his enjoyment. If your sex life is still great, then I can pretty much be sure that your man loves your body and would only love it more if you did a strip tease for him. (: If you want to go that route, put on your skimpiest lingerie, turn on some sexy music and give him a show. The great thing about the strip tease is, it doesn’t matter if you think you’re bad at dancing or get embarrassed to do it infront of him because you can be sure that your dance moves are not what’s he’s concerned with while you’re shaking your goodies at him (if you catch my drift!). You can even tease him by dancing/stripping right within his reach, but not let him touch you until you want him to. That will really rev his engine. (; If you don’t want to go the strip tease route, you could try giving him some sexy TLC by cooking for him. Cook him dinner in your hottest lingerie or with nothing but an apron on, talk about lighting his fire! Another thing you could try is while you’re in the car going somewhere, try running your hands up and down his thighs while he’s driving and breath in his ear telling him what you want to do to him when you get home. Hopefully he doesn’t run the car off the road before then! (;

2. I would have to agree with you about the standing positions. They are definitely the thing to try if you want to spice up your sex life. I have a few ideas that could help you accomplish this. Firstly, I want you to know that there is nothing wrong with you girl, MOST guys cannot hold their girls up long enough to complete a good romp in a standing position on their own. Standing positions are one of those delicious treats that should only be used sparingly for short periods of time. For example, at the start of your romp or for the grand finale (personally I’d go for the grand finale!). Here are some ideas though so that your guy doesn’t have to hold you up all the time. First: you could try a position that is often used in the shower. Stand facing each other and turn your left foot out to the side with your right foot still facing forward. Then act like you’re going to give your guy a hug and put your right leg on his left shoulder (keep you’re knee bent slightly) then as he enters you, you’re going to slowly slide that right calf as far up his shoulder as is comfortable. You’ll end up looking like you’re in a vertical split. Here’s a position that’s a little easier: have your guy stand facing you at the edge of the bed(on the floor), then you’re going to squat (while on the bed) with your back to him. He’s going to steady you by putting his hands under your butt as he enters you from behind. You can also do a variation-reverse of this position. Have your guy stand with his back against the edge of the bed(his feet are on the floor) and he’s going to pick you up and cradle your butt and thighs with his arms, wrap your legs around his waist, and your arms around his neck and have your feet on the bed for support (so some of the weight is taken off him).

Hope this helps! Have fun!

Okay, so I consider myself basically straight, but lately I’ve been curious what it would be like to be with another woman. My boyfriend loves the idea of watching me explore that and we’ve decided we want to have a threesome. We’ve talked about it a lot - what our expectations are, where our boundaries are, etc - but there’s one thing we can’t figure out. A threesome would require a second girl, and I have NO IDEA how to go about finding somebody to bring into our sex life like that! I don’t think I really have any friends who a) would be up for that and/or b) I’m sexually attracted to, and even if I did I would feel so awkward proposing a threesome. But if not a friend, who? And where do I find them? Please help!

I think that’s great that your boyfriend supports your curiosity and that you’ve already talked about expectations and boundaries, because that’s half the battle. Now if you are not interested in asking any of your friends to join you in your sexual quest, then I would suggest putting an ad on a website that specializes in exactly what you and your boyfriend are looking for, just like the girl that asked me a question last week about threesomes did. I think it’s a great idea. As long as you are explicit about what you and your boyfriend are looking for in another partner, I think you could potentially have some good results. I did some research for you and found a review of a website called Bicupid.com that is especially for people that are Bi or Bi-curious. The website got a 3-star rating and looks pretty legit. It’s the first of it’s kind and I think it might be worth a shot for you guys. Just be smart and safe about it though-have the girl email you before she calls you-you know, blah blah blah safety shit. Haha. Here’s the url for the review so you can check it out yourself. Good luck to you guys!

http://dating.about.com/od/bisexualdatingsites/fr/bicupid.htm

I don’t feel like I know how to masturbate correctly. I mean when I do it, it kinda pleasures me, but it’s like a 3 on a scale. compared to my ex, it’s like a zeroo. He was amazing, I orgasmed all the time from him fingering me. He would insert and play with my clitoris at the same time, and I’ve tried but it doesn’t work!! Sometimes I’m in the shower and feel like my arms aren’t long enough or something!:P I don’t know what to do!! I don’t have a vibrator or anything, soo im asking aboutt old fashioned manual stimulation. Hahaha HELPP!!!

Okay, well I can tell you I understand that it’s frustrating when you’re used to a great guy making you orgasm and then you can’t turn around and do it yourself. I totally get it. So I can suggest a couple things. If you want just a clitoral orgasm, try taking two fingers and making a circular motion with them clockwise and then after a minute or so switch it so you’re going counter-clockwise. Sometimes the change in direction can really get people off. Also, if you have a shower with a removable head, try pointing the jet right on your clit. The sensation is unlike anything you will ever be able to do with your hands, most women conclude that you can have some pretty awesome self-rockin’ orgasms that way. You could also try a finger/material combo on your clit. Try playing with your clit with your fingers for a while, then when you feel a climax building, try rubbing a textured material (like a blanket, pillow or stuffed animal) across your clit. That can a lot of times send girls over the edge because of the texture. Now, if you want insertion and clitoral stimulation you could try starting with trying to reach your G-spot with your right hand. Make a “come here” motion with your fingers as far in your vagina as you can reach, the G-spot will be the fleshy pad on the top of your vagina, and trust me, YOU WILL KNOW if you hit it. Once you’ve got that you can add in stimulating your clit with your left hand, so you get the best of both worlds! You can also try using household items to do the insertion part for you-curling irons (NOT TURNED ON! and with vaseline/some other lube on the tip), cucumbers, and even hair brushes (the handle part-not the brush part) can often work as great makeshift dildos! Then simply massage your clit with your free hand. Hope this was helpful, have a nice self-love session!

Me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time and the problem was I was really wet and he kept slipping out. Do you know the cause of this and what I could do to stop it from happening again?

First you need to be congratulated girlfriend! A lot of women would kill to be “too wet” during sex-because most women are too dry. So actually being wet is a good thing, you need that for comfortable penetration. That means you’re extremely aroused, which your boyfriend should be happy about-that means he’s doing something right. (; And also on the plus side-being wet increases your vaginal sensitivity-which means you have a better chance for having mind-blowing orgasms! There are a couple things that could cause you to be “extremely wet” though. Firstly, have you recently stopped or started using the birth control pill or switched to a new brand? If so, hormone fluctuations could be the cause. Also, did you happen to have sex during the ovulation stage of your menstrual cycle? Excessive fluid can sometimes be produced during that stage. Chances are though? You were most likely extremely aroused and that’s why you were super wet. To prevent your guy’s penis from slipping out, well first of all, if you’re using lube, stop! That just adds to the wetness. Next, if your guy didn’t wear a condom, I suggest that he does, condoms can actually help increase friction so his penis will stay in your vagina better. If you’re not using a textured condom, I suggest trying one of those too because that will increase friction even more with all the ridges and studs on them. The last thing you should try is to squeeze your PC muscles during sex, (those are the muscles that you use if you’re peeing and you all of a sudden want to stop peeing!) squeezing those muscles will narrow your vaginal canal giving your guy a more snug fit inside you. Hope this helped, good luck!

hi, I was just wondering when having sex for the first time, women usually bleed but how much and for the majority of men does it disgust them? like when penetration hits does a “waterfall” of blood come out?

Although it is true that MOST women bleed during first intercourse, it’s not guaranteed. It really depends if your hymen has been previously broken or not. Most women know when they break their hymen, however sometimes they don’t even notice. If you break/tear your hymen during first intercourse there is a good chance you will bleed. The amount of blood depends on how thick your hymen was. If it was thick, you will probably bleed more than if it was thin. But in general, the hymen is just a thin layer of skin over the vaginal opening and most likely won’t bleed much. There DEFINITELY won’t be a waterfall of blood on your guy’s dick during penetration. Most women just experience some pinkish-red colored spotting anywhere from 1-3 days or so. If there is actual blood, it really shouldn’t be much more than a teaspoon full. Keep in mind that some women bleed the first few times they have sex, if the tear in the hymen hasn’t healed yet, this is normal and will go away as soon as the hymen is healed/gone. Most normal guys will not be grossed out by this, they usually understand that it comes with the territory of first intercourse with a virgin girl. If they do get grossed out then maybe they aren’t mature enough to be having sex with you anyways, just saying. Hope this was helpful.

I’m scared to finger myself. I’ve tried before and it hurt and now i’m just scared to do it again. But i want it to be pleasurable incase i ever get intimate with anyone. How would i come about doing this?

Perhaps the reason it hurt when you tried to finger yourself is because you weren’t aroused enough before you did it. Fingering should not hurt if you are properly aroused/lubed up (either naturally or synthetically). I would start by making yourself comfortable in a quiet place and surrounding yourself with what turns you on mentally. For instance, perhaps put on some sexy music, light some candles, do it in a warm bath, or put on a movie with a great sex scene. Do whatever gets your mind in the mood. Then begin by stimulating yourself with your clitoris; try rubbing it with your fingers in different styles and directions. Also feel free to explore the rest of your body. Trail your fingers on your inner thighs, over your stomach and touch your breasts/nipples. Do whatever feels good to you. Then when you think you’re turned on enough, try applying lube to your fingers and around and just inside your vaginal opening. Then slowly and gently try to insert your fingers into your vagina. Don’t keep going if it hurts, rest a while, then try again. Self-love can be a trial and error process sometimes and it can sometimes take a while to master. Don’t worry, be patient and your vagina will most likely come around. Good luck.

Hey, so I’m the girl who asked about handjobs a couple weeks ago…it went fine, so thanks for the advice! (Apparently, I’m good at it? Who knew.) Anyway, my question this week is about foot jobs. My guy has a foot fetish, which I’ve known about for a while. It doesn’t creepy me out or anything, at least not conceptually, and I know it’s a pretty common fetish to have. While I was getting him off, he asked me if I had ever given a FJ and if I would. I didn’t just because I had no idea where to start! I’m willing to try it but how does that even work? Do you use both feet? What position is the best? And how is there enough pressure to make him come? Any help would be great, thanks!

I did some research for you and came across a fabulous “guide to footjobs”. Footjobs are interesting because the way that you go about them really depends on what part of your feet your guy is into. Is he into your toes, your soles, the tops of your feet, your heels, your arches? Depending on what it is that he finds sexy, you can use different positions to get him off. Since I feel like this article can give you just as much information as I can in a step-by-step process, I’m just going to post the link for you. (: Good Luck and I hope this is as helpful as last time!

http://www.ehow.com/how_4440422_perform-foot-job.html

Hey so I’m a 19 year old virgin, and because of that a lot of people apperently thinks that I dont have a sexual appetite. That is just not the case. Is it that weird that I like masterbauting? I feel like I’ve been doing it forever. I just havne’t found the right guy to “actually” do it with.

Thanks^^

There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being a virgin at age 19. Some of my very best friends are 20 now and are still virgins. I completely agree with waiting until you find the right guy. Having sex for the first time with the right guy will make your experience much more pleasurable both physically and emotionally because you’ll have that bond with your partner. I’m sorry that people have that misconception of you that you don’t have a sex drive. That’s really a shame. Just because you’re a vaginal intercourse virgin doesn’t mean you haven’t had any sexual experience. It’s perfectly NORMAL for you to like masturbating, I mean seriously, self-love is the best treat a girl can give herself. Being in touch with your body on that level will only help you out for future occasions! It’s a blessing that you know what gets you off, that way when you do decide to have intercourse for the first time, you can show your guy how to get you off also. Masturbating is only beneficial-there is nothing weird or harmful about it. Plus it has many known health benefits (for a list of them, go to my archive and look for the post about “an orgasm a day keeps the doctor away”). Don’t worry what anyone else says honey, there is absolutely nothing weird about you at all. (:

haha hi tay. i was just wondering about something. see, i’m a size 14, and my boyfriend is the average, skinny, 5’10” man, and i was wondering if this could effect our sex life: me being a bigger girl. he doesn’t think i’m big at all, but i still get really self consious about getting naked or being on top because i don’t want to be too heavy. is there any way to help my insecurity and use it to my advantage? because i have no idea on my own.

If your guy doesn’t think there is anything wrong with your body, then I really don’t see how this could affect your sex life in a negative way at all. I think you just need to see a new perspective of yourself-the sex goddess perspective. (; A woman who is a sex goddess is comfortable and confident in her body, no matter what it looks like. A sex goddess uses what she has to be seductive and make her man beg for more. To use your body to your advantage, try wearing something that shows off the things that your boyfriend and you love about your body. Do you have great boobs? A great butt? Or some super sexy curves? Accentuate them! Show off your amazing assets. Seeing you confident in your body, wearing something that shows that confidence, will come off as incredibly sexy to your guy. Also don’t be afraid to “shake what your mama gave you,” being flirty and flaunting your naked body also radiates sex goddess. If you are really concerned about being too heavy for your guy, try positions in which you aren’t on top, so that you feel more comfortable. If you have a nice booty, doggie-style is an excellent option-you’re not on his body at all and he gets a great shot of your ASSets. (; It’s a win-win. When you’re confident and relaxed, the sex will only be better for you guys, this I can promise. I know there’s a sex goddess in you, don’t be afraid to let her out. <3

okay, i’m a virgin and my boyfriend isn’t. so on our 5 month anniversary we were fooling around. we were going to do it. but…i make a joke by saying “we couldn’t find my vagina.” it was horrible. i was frustrated and upset. he says that maybe it wasn’t the right time. what do i do? i want to have sex with him, but how do i “find my vagina” in time?

Okay, I guess I’m a little confused as to what you mean by “finding your vagina in time”? So I’m going to take a stab at two possibilities that I can gather from your question. If neither of these are right, I am sorry, and maybe you can ask me the question again using different words so I understand more clearly. But I’m gonna go ahead and address what I think is going on? First of all are you saying that your guy couldn’t find the right hole to go into? If this is the case you should definitely try and guide his penis to your vaginal opening. Make sure you are properly fingered, aroused and lubed beforehand-that way your vaginal opening will be more prominent and opened up. Then just take your hand and guide his penis to your vaginal opening, he will most likely think it’s sexy that you’re taking control. If you need a refresher on where the vaginal opening is in approximation to other areas of your vagina, look at the diagram I posted on last week’s “Moaning Monday”. The other possibility I could come up with is, are you saying that you couldn’t find your vagina in time before your guy lost his erection? If this is the case try revving up his engine beforehand-by giving him a blowjob or a handjob for a little while, but not until he cums, just as a precursor to your romp. (; This will get his blood pumping and allow him to hold his erection longer, so you should be able to try penetration then without worrying about him going limp. If neither of these is the case, is it just that maybe your guy got weirded out by your joke? If this is the case, explain to him that it was a joke and try again (minus the vagina jokes) and see what happens. Good luck. I’m sorry if none of these were correct or helpful! Feel free to re-message me with different phrasing and I’ll try answering again next week. (:

Last week you answered a question as to whether or not it were possible for a woman’s vaginal opening to be too small, and you said it was not by any means. I know someone personally that had an operation done for this reason, as she could not have intercourse without her opening being made larger. I guess I was just confused as to the way you answered that last question and am wondering if you could clarify. Thanks!

Absolutely I can clarify for you! (: And yes, you are 100% correct. I apologize for the way that I worded my answer to that question. I should have said something like “It is extremely unlikely that your vagina is too small.” Because although there is that possibility that her vagina really could be too small, it’s a very rare condition that goes along with vaginal agenesis, that only a small group of women have. And since she said that it hurt a little, and not that she screamed bloody murder and started crying-I was assuming that this was not a possibility because when women have a legitimately too-small-of-a-vagina, penetration is virtually impossible and would cause horrific pain if a guy tried to insert his penis into her. Another possibility could be if she had Vaginismus, a majority of the women who report having “too small of a vagina” are actually referring to the involuntary constrictions of the vaginal muscles, which is diagnosed as Vaginismus. However since this was this girl’s first time, it’s really too early to tell if it is a condition other than her hymen not being properly broken. If her pain continues when they try to have sex, I would definitely recommend that she go see a doctor. I’m sorry that your friend had to experience going through surgery and dilator therapy and I’m sorry for the confusion! But thanks for asking for clarification, hope this was enough for you!

Hi Taylorann! I just wanted to say your tumblr is amazing and helpful. I love all the things you write. My boyfriend and i have been sexually active for one year and we both lost our virginity to each other. He loves it when sex is rough and tries to live out his sexual fantasies with me. I can’t complain because I love when he roughens it up, but afterwards my vagina feels sore and so do my thighs. Is there anything that can help this?

Well thank you very much, I really appreciate the compliment! (: I agree with you on the fact that rough sex is exciting and extra-naughty, I definitely enjoy it myself. Your vagina and thighs feel sore because your boyfriend is thrusting undoubtedly very vigorously and the vagina is made of very sensitive skin that can get irritated after long periods of sexual activity. Also your urethral opening can become irritated if the penis rubs against it. Since you like rough sex so much, there really isn’t a whole lot you can do to prevent it ahead of time. I would use lube-lube is specifically designed to prevent chaffing, so that may help. Also if a particular position gets to be uncomfortable during your romp, try switching up positions or slowing down the speed (although that defeats the ‘rough’ sex purpose. haha.) For after-rough-sex-care, I would suggest that you take a warm bath (no soaps or salts though!) and let your vagina soak so that some of the irritation goes away, have your man join you in this ritual if you want! (; Then when you get out of the bath, put some moisturizer (again-be gentle on the perfumes and such) on to reduce dryness. Hope this helps! Have fun!

how bad does it hurt when you first have sex because im thinking of letting my boyfriend take my virginity on my prom night because i thought it would be romantic and my parents wont be home but whenever i ask this question to anybody they dont ever go into setail like what happens down there what streatch and how bad it hurts

Okay well the reason people probably don’t go into details when you ask them about this is because they probably don’t know. First intercourse is a very tricky thing because it truly is a different experience for everyone. For some lucky girls it doesn’t hurt at all, and for others it hurts quite a bit. The pain-and the bleeding that is often associated with it-depends on several things: whether your hymen has been previously broken (and this can actually occur during other vigorous activities like playing sports, riding a horse or having a bike crash-so your hymen may be broken already if you’ve done these things), how gentle your boyfriend is when he penetrates you, if you’re really turned on and well lubricated, and how big your boyfriend’s penis is. What stretches (and breaks) is your hymen being penetrated by your boyfriend’s penis and a lot of girls would describe the pain like feeling a pinch-with some variation depending on the girl obviously. You may bleed a little (for a description of this-look at the specific bleeding question I answered above). Tell your boyfriend to go slowly and gently and just relax. The best indicator of whether your first time will be pleasurable or not is relaxation, if you’re relaxed, your muscles will be relaxed and the penis will have an easier time going in. Make sure he fingers you beforehand, use lube if you think you’ll need it, make sure you’re aroused and ALWAYS use a condom. (: Have fun and I hope this is detailed enough for you.

Heyy, so I have a condom question. My boyfriend is new to the whole condom thing and finds that he has difficulty maintaining his erection after he puts on a condom. Not wearing a condom is not an option so I’m hoping that he will eventually get used to the feel of the condom but do you have an suggestions to help him feel less restricted? Is there a certain brand of condoms that may help?

Not to worry about your boyfriend, a lot of guys have difficulty maintaining an erection when trying to put a condom on, that’s why you see guys who put it on and put it in as fast as possible. Before I go into condom brands here’s something you can try to help your boyfriend out: try giving your guy a blowjob or a handjob for a while, but not so long that he cums. By doing this you’re going to heighten his arousal which increases blood flow in his penis and make his erection last long enough to get the condom on. Another thing you can do is put the condom on for him. Guys often find it extremely sexy when their girls put the condom on for them, because you’re also touching his penis. This will also help him maintain his erection long enough to put the condom on. As far as brands go I can give you a few options. Despite what you’ve heard before and seen on TV, Trojans are actually not all they’re cracked up to be. In fact, consumers rate them a lot lower than other brands because of their extreme latex smell and low sensitivity rating. ALSO, this is important: Trojan actually scored slightly lower than average for FDA reliability than other condom brands. So just because they have great advertising, doesn’t make them great! I found a fabulous “Best Condoms 2010” review website that you and your boyfriend should definitely go over together to find a brand that fits your needs. Personally, if you can find the #1 voted condom brand, Crown, I would try that, it seems to be rated the best overall and has the comfort fit your boyfriend might need. (: Here’s the url, hope this helped, good luck!

http://www.condomdepot.com/reviews/best-condoms.cfm

so, my boyfriend always wants to have sex, and when i’m on my period, we hardly hang out..and i want to say it seems like he only wants to hang out with me to have sex, but i know he really does love me, well i hope so. and i try to tell him that if we do it all the time, we’ll get bored of it…but he’s like omg how could you get bored of that!? but like, i don’t know how to explain it to him, so how would i tell him i don’t want to have sex all the time without him getting mad? because i’ve tried just straight up telling him that, but he gets mad, and we were reading about sex positions and tips and then we were laying down and we started kissing and such, and he tried getting me to touch him and he was touching me, but i stopped him..and he got really mad. which really pissed me off, but he was like well don’t you understand how i can get mad? and i can, but i think it’s stupid. i just want to simply hang out without a blowjob or fingering or having sex. oh, but don’t get me wrong, i love having sex and everything, and when we do have sex, it’s great…but like i said, i know i’ll get bored if we do it too often. and sometimes he takes too long to finish, so i have to work so much just for him to orgasm. also it starts to hurt and i get really dry and then it seems like my vagina is like ripping or something? i’m not sure if you know what i mean..but it is very painful, especially to pee. so i don’t know what i’m really asking…or if you know how to answer, but try your best :) by the way, i love your tumblr! it’s really helpful and inspiring, haha.

Okay, first of all to address your boyfriend issue. I’m sorry and please don’t be offended, but it sure sounds right to me that he’s using you for sex. Especially because he gets mad if you reject him and the fact that he won’t hang out with you if you’re on your period. That’s just bullshit girl. If you really think he loves you, then he should understand that you don’t always want to have sex. A loving, wonderful relationship has so much more going on in it than having sex all time. And he shouldn’t get mad about this, because you’re not saying you don’t want to have sex, in fact you love it and it’s great, you’re simply saying that that’s not what the entire relationship should be about and I think you’re absolutely right. Because think about it this way: looking at how your relationship is now, if you took away the sex part of it, what would you be left with? Nothing. Sex is not enough to hold a relationship together in a healthy way. So if I were you I would sit him down again and explain all this to him, that although you think sex is great, it should be saved for times when you guys really want to be intimate with eachother. For instance, after spending a great night together at dinner and a movie. Tell him you feel like he’s using you and see what he says. If he gets mad again, I’m just saying that that’s a very unhealthy relationship and you should break up with him because that would mean that he doesn’t respect you or your opinions. It sounds like you’re being treated as his sex object, not his girlfriend and you don’t deserve that honey. Not at all. (: Now for the pain during sex, if you’re becoming really dry I suggest that you guys use a lubricant; it will ease penetration difficulty/pain and chaffing. Also, tell him to ease up on you a bit, be gentle because rough, intense sex will only make the problem worse. That’s why you’re feeling pain when you pee; his penis is rubbing against the urethral opening causing it to be irritated. The amount of friction he’s causing with you, especially from having sex so frequently could also cause little tears in your vaginal lining (nothing too serious-but it would cause pain) and there’s also urinary tract infections to worry about. People who have sex very frequently are a lot more likely to contract them. Make sure you pee before and after sex and if your pain gets any worse or continues and you feel a strong urge to pee all the time-I would highly recommend going to your doctor. I hope this helped and things get better for you dear, good luck with your boyfriend!

Me and my boyfriend have a great sex life. We have began to get more experimental,The question is..
I was just wondering if you could give me any advice how to spice things up? I love the idea of being kinky and the adrenaline of being caught. Im too scared to try anything outside. I want to be able to really get him going by teasing him a few hours before we actually have sex. Like, If we were out with our friends i want to be able to show him i want sex later and make him want it. The only thing I can think is going comando in a skirt, though i think thats a bit too ‘out there’.. and i dont just want to say to him ‘I want you to fuck me later’ Sorry its so long. Thankyou x

I’ve actually been pondering your question all week. (: And I think I’ve come up with some super fun and naughty things you can do to him before you have sex and an idea for how to get the adrenaline of being caught without going outside. Okay let’s start with the car ride going somewhere to meet up with some friends. You could wear a short skirt or a smokin’ hot dress that shows your cleavage and put on your sexiest pair of panties. While in the car and he’s driving, turn slightly towards him (so he’ll have a better view) very nonchalantly put your legs up on the dash and “accidentally” hike your skirt/dress up to expose your super sexy underwear. He’ll barely be able to keep his eyes on the road and it’ll get his mind going. Now, when you’re at say a restaurant, bar or club with your friends, while sitting side by side with him, turn your body so he’s facing forward and you’re facing him on the side (you’ll be in a ‘T’ shape with your bodies). Run your hand (under the table of course!) up and down his thighs and lightly touch his package, then announce to your friends that you’re going to the bathroom. As you’re leaving, take your fingers and trail them up his arm across his shoulders and over the back of his neck and whisper into his ear that you’ll be right back, but he’s welcome to put you on your back later. (; You can also take naughty pictures of yourself while in the bathroom and send them to him while he’s with your friends, send with a text that says something like “you+me+no clothes=as soon as we get home!” The message will be loud and clear! If you’re feeling dangerous you could also send him a text from the bathroom telling him to meet you at the car and get it on right there in the parking lot, talk about adrenaline of being caught! Another thing you could try for adrenaline, when finally at home, is having sex against a wall where all your windows are in the living room or even having sex against the windows! You’ll get the adrenaline of being caught/seen from the comfort of inside your house. I hope this gives you some ideas, have some serious fun! (;

I feel like this is getting really long and wanted to at least get this posted. I still have six questions left, I’ll be posting a second “Moaning Monday” post as soon as they’re finished! Enjoy these for now! (: