Have you been Naughty or Nice this year?? (;

So I know it’s a little after Christmas now…but that doesn’t mean the holidays are over just yet! I’ve been super busy lately myself getting ready for the holidays just like I know many of you have. But being busy during the holiday season is no excuse for your sex life to turn to ice! According to Dr. Neil Cannon, a sex therapist, sexual desire can be down as much as 50% during the holidays because of all the stress accompanying that time of year. So as a special treat for all of you, I’m going to give you some sexy tips and tricks for keeping your sex life during the holidays magical (whether they be naughty or nice!) So grab your honey, a cup of hot chocolate, a warm blanket, and enjoy these holiday treats!

1. Plan your “Ho Ho Ho Horny” time!

It’s often very difficult with all the shopping, family visits and baking to make special time to have sex with your partner. This is where having a “sex schedule” can come in handy! Plan out your sexual encounters by picking the location, and time of day to do the deed. Make sex a priority. Spontaneous “quickies” can also be just as satisfying so don’t forget to throw a few of those in every once in a while-pick a new place to try out such as the car, living room, or bathroom. Also, make sure your partner knows what you have in-store for your next adventure by trying this tip: put jingle-bells on the doorknob of the room you wish to have sexytime in-this should amp up the anticipation for your partner and while you’re doing the deed you will be comforted by the thought that you’ll be able to hear if there are any intruders! :p

2. Talk about who’s been naughty and who’s been nice!

Talking about sex with your partner atleast once every day is a very good idea during the holiday season because it will keep your sex drive on your mind. Get creative for ways to talk about when and where and how you’d like your next “sex-capade” to be. Try sending a dirty, yet simple text to your partner during the day letting them know just how bad you want them to go down your chimney later. (; or by suggesting specific details of what the night’s activities are to be. You can create the same effect by a short and naughty phone call, a dirty email or voice mail, or even through your facebook status by creating a code word for getting it on!

3. Be a “Sexy Spontaneous Santa”!

It’s good to break the routine every once and a while, and around the holidays is the perfect time to do that to keep your sex life steamy! Being spontaneous with your partner will take your sexual relationship to a new level! Try these hot tips: while out one evening with your honey, shoot them a very seductive “come here” look and try to pick them up with only your eyes, then take them to the bathroom and go at it! Or give the typical mistletoe a naughty twist by making standing under the mistletoe signify it’s time for a quickie instead of a kiss. (;

4. Remember to “give”!

Everyone wants some extra-attention paid to them when they’ve been sexually neglected for a while. Don’t forget the little things! Focus on foreplay during the holidays and make sure both partners are equally satisfied. Try taking a sexy bath or shower together and then wrapping yourselves in warm, fluffy towels to keep the endorphins flowin’! Also you can purchase a variety of specialty lubricants from your local sex shop or drugstore. You can find warming sensations, tingling sensations and many delicious flavors to add to your sexual experience. My personal suggestion? Try KY’s “Kissable Sensations For The Body”, dual lubricants in chocolate for her and strawberry for him, sounds like the perfect holiday treat, right?! Also, try not only using those lubricants for foreplay but also for a sensual massage and then switch it up so both partners can enjoy the euphoria.

5. Have sexy “holiday-themed” dates!

Winter/Holiday themed dates are perfect to keep things hot and spicy during this time of year. Here are a few of my suggestions: go ice-skating on a local pond or rink, you can hold hands and bond while helping eachother not to fall! Make home-made eggnog and play board games by a cozy fire, make silly bets such as whoever wins the game gets to have their way with the loser. Go out on the town and admire all the holiday decorations while driving or walking and stopping for a holiday-themed hot drink from your local coffee shop along the way. Or if you’re into something super simple, pretend that you’re “snowed-in” at your partner’s house and use your imagination for the rest. (;

6. Spend “The Most Wonderful Time of The Year” together!

Everyone has holiday preparations to do, why not add a little sexiness and bonding and do them together?! Put the tree up together and put ornaments on together holding hands, bake Christmas cookies together and get into a sexy food fight, go shopping for presents together and have fun picking out “naughty” gifts for eachother. The possibilities are endless! The holidays are all about togetherness, there are plenty of ways to get the prepwork done and still keep your sex life intact.

7. Have A Little Holiday Fun With Foods And Spirits!

As I have said before in many posts, incorporating food into sex is a fantastic idea. There are many holiday-themed ways to keep the tradition going. Try drinking home-made dark hot chocolate together made from cocoa that is 70% or higher. Chocolate is a real aphrodisiac (see my post on “foods for fucking” in the archive!) and a great holiday treat. Also since New Year’s Eve is fast approaching, try taking turns pouring champagne or peppermint schnapps (if you’re over 21 of course!) in eachother’s belly buttons and then sucking it out, or simply pouring it all over your partner’s body and then licking it off. (;

8. Get Creative!

Just because there may be other family members around during the holidays doesn’t mean sex has to be completely off limits. Try stealthy positions such as a spooning one to keep people from really knowing what you’re up to under those blankets. (; Also try keeping the ecstasy low-key, try keeping your moans of pleasure on a quieter level than normal so it’s not so noticeable.

9. Baby, All I Want For Christmas Is You!

The holidays are a perfect time to be a little silly and a little sexy. This is your chance to try out role-playing with your partner if you haven’t yet, what could be better than a sexy Santa, Mrs. Claus or Elf outfit?! There are tons of sexy lingerie and costumes available in stores and online, feel free to knock yourself out! Also another sexy surprise to try: use the leftover wrapping paper, bows and ribbons to turn yourself into the sexiest present your partner has ever seen. Then let them unwrap you of course. (;

**Having trouble coming up with sexy holiday outfit ideas on your own? Check these awesome ones out that I found in an article posted on msnbc.com!

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10. Work That Mistletoe!

Studies show that one of the best ways to keep a sexual relationship happy and healthy is to engage in a 5+ second extremely passionate kiss with your partner atleast twice a day. Taking their breath away like that will really pay off in the bedroom. So this holiday season, buy lots of mistletoe and use it well! (;

Well that’s it for now guys, I hope you’ve enjoyed my “Holiday Guide To Sexyness!” I’ll start posting regular posts very soon, I promise, including getting to all those questions I’ve received! A special shout-out to two guys who sent me questions, JJ and Chris from Florida. You guys rock! (: I love getting questions from guys and it happens rarely. Happy Holidays everyone, and have a fantastically sexy New Year’s Eve! <33